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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 485139" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>so, for the mother situation, I might just casually say something to her in person, just a check in...not making it a huge deal since it seems to the teacher it really is not. And be aware, most are not so forthcoming and open as you are... they may not be ready to see issues with their child so yours can take the fall for all of it. That is not fair to J, takes two. </p><p></p><p>I do find it interesting that our kids teach us so much about ourselves and force us to confront old issues. I have really had to work on conflict resolution and being assertive. The biggest is having to "not care" what others think. I am no where near where I need to be with that.</p><p></p><p>when Quin is afraid he is in trouble, he always acts his worse with me. Like since he is in deep doo doo anyway, oh well...go for the big one.</p><p></p><p>Really though, I think it is just the anxiety over it and not knowing what to do (for him) to make it really better. I wonder if he "really knew it was not ok to have those" or if he just really didn't want you to take them away. Fine line I know, but for him, it is about what he wants. Not really I'm trying to get away with something I would suspect. But you can see him and I can't. so just offering another idea.... it would be more developmentally in line that he learned last time that when he had something he wanted, and you saw it, he got upset. Now he didn't want that to happen again. </p><p></p><p>Check your fb.... I think I found you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 485139, member: 12886"] so, for the mother situation, I might just casually say something to her in person, just a check in...not making it a huge deal since it seems to the teacher it really is not. And be aware, most are not so forthcoming and open as you are... they may not be ready to see issues with their child so yours can take the fall for all of it. That is not fair to J, takes two. I do find it interesting that our kids teach us so much about ourselves and force us to confront old issues. I have really had to work on conflict resolution and being assertive. The biggest is having to "not care" what others think. I am no where near where I need to be with that. when Quin is afraid he is in trouble, he always acts his worse with me. Like since he is in deep doo doo anyway, oh well...go for the big one. Really though, I think it is just the anxiety over it and not knowing what to do (for him) to make it really better. I wonder if he "really knew it was not ok to have those" or if he just really didn't want you to take them away. Fine line I know, but for him, it is about what he wants. Not really I'm trying to get away with something I would suspect. But you can see him and I can't. so just offering another idea.... it would be more developmentally in line that he learned last time that when he had something he wanted, and you saw it, he got upset. Now he didn't want that to happen again. Check your fb.... I think I found you. [/QUOTE]
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