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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 485234" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Well, I am doing a Buddy <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />)) and cannot sleep - it's 6 am here, I am awake and not even sure of whether I got any sleep last night (which means I probably did).</p><p>I understand your concern, MWM. I think I would be really, really worried about the incident (as opposed to just really worried <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />) if it had been J actually putting his hands around the other boy's neck, unprovoked, and squeezing. But what actually happened was that the other boy asked him to get hold of the back of his shirt "to play at being trains" and J did so - and then pulled too hard. It's a little different. Still concerning but not quite what you are imagining. At the same time, J does hit other kids and is too physical - confusing thing is they all do it, even the girls occasionally. It's kind of like how boys used to be (in my memory) but this kind of thing is not tolerated in the States at all now so maybe it seems more pathological than it is?</p><p>That is at school. At home, J definitely has a problem with violence - physical and verbal. He would never do that to his teacher. Why?</p><p>There is no complete evaluation to be had here. I have done everything I can, I feel, in terms of getting him evaluated - and am basically getting the message that there is nothing that much to be concerned about or done at this point. The teacher things I am a worry-guts and imagining problems that are not there... </p><p>I don't know if J's behaviour will get worse. It could also get better as he matures. But I cannot put my head in the sand and just count on that happening. </p><p>I am also worried about his birthday - it's his birthday today week and I've organised one of those soulless hamburger restaurant parties (kids like it, I guess). People were supposed to ring me by the 1st to confirm - several of them haven't done so to say yes or no, including the best friend's mother. J will be SO disappointed if he doesn't come, and it would be kind of strange. So I do need to ring the mother about that anyway. Birthday parties are not such a big deal here - a friend of mine who's been here some time told me that children very often don't turn up to parties, particularly at the weekend and she always feels bad for the child... But of course the paranoid side of me is thinking it is to do with J.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 485234, member: 11227"] Well, I am doing a Buddy (:)) and cannot sleep - it's 6 am here, I am awake and not even sure of whether I got any sleep last night (which means I probably did). I understand your concern, MWM. I think I would be really, really worried about the incident (as opposed to just really worried :)) if it had been J actually putting his hands around the other boy's neck, unprovoked, and squeezing. But what actually happened was that the other boy asked him to get hold of the back of his shirt "to play at being trains" and J did so - and then pulled too hard. It's a little different. Still concerning but not quite what you are imagining. At the same time, J does hit other kids and is too physical - confusing thing is they all do it, even the girls occasionally. It's kind of like how boys used to be (in my memory) but this kind of thing is not tolerated in the States at all now so maybe it seems more pathological than it is? That is at school. At home, J definitely has a problem with violence - physical and verbal. He would never do that to his teacher. Why? There is no complete evaluation to be had here. I have done everything I can, I feel, in terms of getting him evaluated - and am basically getting the message that there is nothing that much to be concerned about or done at this point. The teacher things I am a worry-guts and imagining problems that are not there... I don't know if J's behaviour will get worse. It could also get better as he matures. But I cannot put my head in the sand and just count on that happening. I am also worried about his birthday - it's his birthday today week and I've organised one of those soulless hamburger restaurant parties (kids like it, I guess). People were supposed to ring me by the 1st to confirm - several of them haven't done so to say yes or no, including the best friend's mother. J will be SO disappointed if he doesn't come, and it would be kind of strange. So I do need to ring the mother about that anyway. Birthday parties are not such a big deal here - a friend of mine who's been here some time told me that children very often don't turn up to parties, particularly at the weekend and she always feels bad for the child... But of course the paranoid side of me is thinking it is to do with J. [/QUOTE]
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