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<blockquote data-quote="family mum" data-source="post: 529403" data-attributes="member: 14457"><p>Yes, my husband and I used to often disagree with how to handle situations. it was common (and still is sometimes now) for us to end up arguing with each other in the middle of, or after a crisis with difficult child. We are getting much better at that part. (Yeah! take success where you can find it!) We didn't do couple or family counselling but we have been talking with the social worker and recently started having sessions with difficult children psychiatric. for parenting techniques. This has allowed us to find some common ground so that we can try to both use the same strategies. It also allows us to be more neutral when we discuss things together because instead of just pointing fingers at each other saying that the other person's discipline strategies are bad/wrong, we can "remind" one another of the methods that </p><p>we are trying to implement. It's not perfect, but it is a lot better!</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/hi5.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hi5:" title="hi5 :hi5:" data-shortname=":hi5:" /> The other thing that we are trying to do is to make sure that we get couple time. date night is great but not always practical as it can be difficult to both leave the house at the same time. Sometimes we just try to catch a moment by having a quiet coffee together. We have taken the habit of going to bed quite late so that we can sit and watch some TV together. It's just down time where we aren't demanding anything of each other. We tend to hold hands or I stretch my feet across his legs or something so that we are connected and we just keep to small mundane talk during the commercial breaks. I know it doesn't sound like much but it does help us to keep it all together.</p><p></p><p>We will be married 21 years this may, together for 26 years, and I told him that I refuse to let us find ourselves on the wrong side of those statistics!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="family mum, post: 529403, member: 14457"] Yes, my husband and I used to often disagree with how to handle situations. it was common (and still is sometimes now) for us to end up arguing with each other in the middle of, or after a crisis with difficult child. We are getting much better at that part. (Yeah! take success where you can find it!) We didn't do couple or family counselling but we have been talking with the social worker and recently started having sessions with difficult children psychiatric. for parenting techniques. This has allowed us to find some common ground so that we can try to both use the same strategies. It also allows us to be more neutral when we discuss things together because instead of just pointing fingers at each other saying that the other person's discipline strategies are bad/wrong, we can "remind" one another of the methods that we are trying to implement. It's not perfect, but it is a lot better! :hi5: The other thing that we are trying to do is to make sure that we get couple time. date night is great but not always practical as it can be difficult to both leave the house at the same time. Sometimes we just try to catch a moment by having a quiet coffee together. We have taken the habit of going to bed quite late so that we can sit and watch some TV together. It's just down time where we aren't demanding anything of each other. We tend to hold hands or I stretch my feet across his legs or something so that we are connected and we just keep to small mundane talk during the commercial breaks. I know it doesn't sound like much but it does help us to keep it all together. We will be married 21 years this may, together for 26 years, and I told him that I refuse to let us find ourselves on the wrong side of those statistics! [/QUOTE]
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