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<blockquote data-quote="Abbey" data-source="post: 165670" data-attributes="member: 179"><p>So, so sad.</p><p></p><p>Any psycologist would tell you that the pattern continues when you are raised in an abusive home.</p><p></p><p>Well, I was raised in a abusive home. The most I ever did to my kids was have the 'kindness spoon.' (It was a little wooden spoon.) </p><p></p><p>My two oldest would fight like they were warriors. I got so sick and tired of hearing their fighting. I'd get the spoon and give them each a gentle wack on the behind then make them sit knee to knee for a half an hour. Smart? No. But, people make really stupid choices when you're frustrated. Actually, sitting knee to knee was about the best punishment I could have ever given.</p><p></p><p>My epiphany (sp?) was when I met my father's mother and realized how HE was raised. Horrible. Absolutely horrible. He had no proper knowledge of how a functional family works, hence, he brought that to my family.</p><p></p><p>That being said, I vowed to NEVER do the things that were done to us as children. </p><p></p><p>It's sad that lady didn't have the support to make that happen. You live what you know. I'm not defending her, just understanding that you live what you know and she didn't know anything else. It appears that she didn't have any other skills or knowledge to fall back on.</p><p></p><p>So sad.</p><p></p><p>Abbey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Abbey, post: 165670, member: 179"] So, so sad. Any psycologist would tell you that the pattern continues when you are raised in an abusive home. Well, I was raised in a abusive home. The most I ever did to my kids was have the 'kindness spoon.' (It was a little wooden spoon.) My two oldest would fight like they were warriors. I got so sick and tired of hearing their fighting. I'd get the spoon and give them each a gentle wack on the behind then make them sit knee to knee for a half an hour. Smart? No. But, people make really stupid choices when you're frustrated. Actually, sitting knee to knee was about the best punishment I could have ever given. My epiphany (sp?) was when I met my father's mother and realized how HE was raised. Horrible. Absolutely horrible. He had no proper knowledge of how a functional family works, hence, he brought that to my family. That being said, I vowed to NEVER do the things that were done to us as children. It's sad that lady didn't have the support to make that happen. You live what you know. I'm not defending her, just understanding that you live what you know and she didn't know anything else. It appears that she didn't have any other skills or knowledge to fall back on. So sad. Abbey [/QUOTE]
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