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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 749904" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I could try to understand and respect your ex-s point of view, under these conditions:</p><p></p><p>If he did not constantly insult you.</p><p>If he did not constantly threaten you.</p><p>If he did not constantly blame you.</p><p>If he did not constantly manipulate you.</p><p>If he did not constantly insert how right he is and wrong and bad you are.</p><p></p><p>If he expressed willingness to work together in any way.</p><p>If he put forth even one thing he was willing to do to help son.</p><p>If he demonstrated any understanding and empathy for you in any way. However tiny.</p><p>if he expressed any openness to communicate.</p><p>If he spoke about real world specific issues, instead of philosophical generalities.</p><p>If he gave even a tiny bit of responsibility to your son.</p><p>If he expressed even an iota of understanding of your situation and your motivations.</p><p></p><p>We could have a discussion whether there is validity to his point of view, that son needs to be supported, if this was really what these communications are about. They are not about supporting your son. Not one bit.</p><p></p><p>I can only surmise that the main reason he is doing what he is doing is to injure you. Not to support son. Actually there is not one constructive thing he says that would help son. His aim, I believe is just to batter you. I would do anything I could to avoid receiving any more of these communications. This is beyond gaslighting. This is pure abuse. I agree with Tanya. This man is an abusive bully. He cares not at all about your son. What in the world is he volunteering to do to support him? Not one thing. He only wants you to suffer. I am sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 749904, member: 18958"] I could try to understand and respect your ex-s point of view, under these conditions: If he did not constantly insult you. If he did not constantly threaten you. If he did not constantly blame you. If he did not constantly manipulate you. If he did not constantly insert how right he is and wrong and bad you are. If he expressed willingness to work together in any way. If he put forth even one thing he was willing to do to help son. If he demonstrated any understanding and empathy for you in any way. However tiny. if he expressed any openness to communicate. If he spoke about real world specific issues, instead of philosophical generalities. If he gave even a tiny bit of responsibility to your son. If he expressed even an iota of understanding of your situation and your motivations. We could have a discussion whether there is validity to his point of view, that son needs to be supported, if this was really what these communications are about. They are not about supporting your son. Not one bit. I can only surmise that the main reason he is doing what he is doing is to injure you. Not to support son. Actually there is not one constructive thing he says that would help son. His aim, I believe is just to batter you. I would do anything I could to avoid receiving any more of these communications. This is beyond gaslighting. This is pure abuse. I agree with Tanya. This man is an abusive bully. He cares not at all about your son. What in the world is he volunteering to do to support him? Not one thing. He only wants you to suffer. I am sorry. [/QUOTE]
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