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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 189952" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Shari,</p><p> </p><p>I am sorry. This is so hard on moms. Any violence from our kids is hard on us. have you made a plan to address this?</p><p> </p><p>I completely understand that you need to hunt for meat. While we don't hunt, my brother does - when he can afford to take the time. </p><p> </p><p>I know you said wee difficult child had a good week. But it was only ONE week. It doesn't matter how much training he has had - or at what age it started. First of all he is only 6. Neurotypical six year olds have a lot of trouble with impulse control. Yours has had a lot of trouble with impulse control most of his short life.</p><p> </p><p>Your son has also been quite violent for a long time. Some of the time you haven't really realized how violent he has been. That happens because we become used to handling it - we just get so much of it from our difficult children. You have posted many times about how violent he has been to you or one of the other kids. </p><p> </p><p>I really feel that he is too young to handle the responsibility of a bow or gun. He doesn't really comprehend the damage it could do. he also, in the heat of the moment, could WANT to inflict that level of harm on someone who has upset him. He has inflicted other harm on you. Until he is capable of making safe choices for a period of years, he has no business handling any weapon. If he was out hunting with his dad and got mad - what would stop him from shooting at dad? And what would dad do to get help out in the woods or wherever you hunt? What would then happen to difficult child when he realized the harm he had caused? Are you and husband ready to let him handle that level of guilt for the rest of his life? </p><p> </p><p>With his impulse control it is NOT unreasonable to think he might seriously harm someone with a bow or a gun. </p><p> </p><p>Please make sure he is not able to get his hands on a bow or gun for a LONG time. </p><p> </p><p>I am sorry if this upsets you. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p><p> </p><p>ps. I will still and always support you - no matter if you follow what I suggest or not..</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 189952, member: 1233"] Shari, I am sorry. This is so hard on moms. Any violence from our kids is hard on us. have you made a plan to address this? I completely understand that you need to hunt for meat. While we don't hunt, my brother does - when he can afford to take the time. I know you said wee difficult child had a good week. But it was only ONE week. It doesn't matter how much training he has had - or at what age it started. First of all he is only 6. Neurotypical six year olds have a lot of trouble with impulse control. Yours has had a lot of trouble with impulse control most of his short life. Your son has also been quite violent for a long time. Some of the time you haven't really realized how violent he has been. That happens because we become used to handling it - we just get so much of it from our difficult children. You have posted many times about how violent he has been to you or one of the other kids. I really feel that he is too young to handle the responsibility of a bow or gun. He doesn't really comprehend the damage it could do. he also, in the heat of the moment, could WANT to inflict that level of harm on someone who has upset him. He has inflicted other harm on you. Until he is capable of making safe choices for a period of years, he has no business handling any weapon. If he was out hunting with his dad and got mad - what would stop him from shooting at dad? And what would dad do to get help out in the woods or wherever you hunt? What would then happen to difficult child when he realized the harm he had caused? Are you and husband ready to let him handle that level of guilt for the rest of his life? With his impulse control it is NOT unreasonable to think he might seriously harm someone with a bow or a gun. Please make sure he is not able to get his hands on a bow or gun for a LONG time. I am sorry if this upsets you. Hugs, Susie ps. I will still and always support you - no matter if you follow what I suggest or not.. [/QUOTE]
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