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Thoughts about forgiving myself and my son
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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 753747" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Miss Lulu</p><p></p><p>It is a day to day struggle for me to separate my sons happiness from my own. In my opinion, once your son does move out, you may be able to detach with love a little easier. Nothing is "easy" about the process but it just might help you to get stronger with each hour, each day etc.</p><p></p><p>I have found this to be the case for myself. Although sons have not been living with me it's not seeing them every day. Not looking into their pitiful eyes, heavy hearts and looking at their uncleanliness or emotional issues they have. I have to tell myself, I have not "washed my hands" of them but I tried for so long to put everything in order so they could have a platform from which to succeed. Nothing worked. I hit brick wall after brick wall trying to change them. </p><p></p><p>Only until I realized I have to change myself and work hard at it did anything even remotely get better. </p><p></p><p>Some days are better than others but I am much happier putting all my work into getting myself healthier minded than putting all my work into two sons who have showed no signs of improvements for years. I'm putting my time on this earth to better use now and continue to hold them in my prayers. </p><p></p><p>Please take care of yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 753747, member: 23405"] Miss Lulu It is a day to day struggle for me to separate my sons happiness from my own. In my opinion, once your son does move out, you may be able to detach with love a little easier. Nothing is "easy" about the process but it just might help you to get stronger with each hour, each day etc. I have found this to be the case for myself. Although sons have not been living with me it's not seeing them every day. Not looking into their pitiful eyes, heavy hearts and looking at their uncleanliness or emotional issues they have. I have to tell myself, I have not "washed my hands" of them but I tried for so long to put everything in order so they could have a platform from which to succeed. Nothing worked. I hit brick wall after brick wall trying to change them. Only until I realized I have to change myself and work hard at it did anything even remotely get better. Some days are better than others but I am much happier putting all my work into getting myself healthier minded than putting all my work into two sons who have showed no signs of improvements for years. I'm putting my time on this earth to better use now and continue to hold them in my prayers. Please take care of yourself. [/QUOTE]
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