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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 234887"><p>Your son does sound extremely sensitive. I have one of those, too, and he won't talk about it until he's ready and then it's like a dam has opened.</p><p></p><p>The "I don't know" and his reaction to further prodding reminds me of my daughter, except she gets angry. The problem is she really doesn't know. At least, she doesn't understand the feelings nor can she articulate them. Feelings and experiences that happen young in life tend to stay that way emotionally, if that make sense. They couldn't make sense of them then and they can't make sense of them now because they still experience it the way it felt at the young age it happened. At 7 years old, he didn't have the insight to understand what he was feeling or the words to express it, just that he was feeling it. Since he didn't have the words then, he doesn't have them now either with regard to that experience. And at 12, insight is really just starting to take form.</p><p></p><p>I think finding a therapist that understands that and doesn't try to force him to come up with words he doesn't have is key. You have to get into it via a back door, so to speak.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 234887"] Your son does sound extremely sensitive. I have one of those, too, and he won't talk about it until he's ready and then it's like a dam has opened. The "I don't know" and his reaction to further prodding reminds me of my daughter, except she gets angry. The problem is she really doesn't know. At least, she doesn't understand the feelings nor can she articulate them. Feelings and experiences that happen young in life tend to stay that way emotionally, if that make sense. They couldn't make sense of them then and they can't make sense of them now because they still experience it the way it felt at the young age it happened. At 7 years old, he didn't have the insight to understand what he was feeling or the words to express it, just that he was feeling it. Since he didn't have the words then, he doesn't have them now either with regard to that experience. And at 12, insight is really just starting to take form. I think finding a therapist that understands that and doesn't try to force him to come up with words he doesn't have is key. You have to get into it via a back door, so to speak. [/QUOTE]
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