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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 410019"><p>TL...what a great post! I love what you said here: </p><p> </p><p><em>To me the first part of detachment is setting those boundaries and limits so that they learn they can not walk all over you, take advantage of you, that you will no longer enable them.</em></p><p> </p><p><em>The other piece of learning to love life no matter what they are doing comes later I think..... </em></p><p> </p><p> </p><p>I think that is most of it right there! I think detachment is not so much about or for our kids, but about and for us.</p><p> </p><p>Our daughter is doing some really frightening things at the moment. This happens periodically. She is not taking her medications. True, I am a bit anxious. I come here more often during these events.</p><p> </p><p>However, for the most part...I am calm...I am at peace. And I REALLY mean this. The reason is, that I know that no matter what....I WILL BE OK. Naturally, I hope that she too will be ok. Hexk, my difficult child (as most of the ones here) seem to land on their feet somehow. </p><p> </p><p>But, I've rode this rollercoaster too many times to let it influence me and my life more than just a little blip. Life moves on and I intend to enjoy it to fullest. I have the peace that comes when you know that NO MATTER WHAT...I will survive....and be strong.</p><p> </p><p>Can't say when I got to this point. I think it was a decision that I made. A choice. A super duper hard choice.</p><p> </p><p>I am not a robot and have moments that my mommy heart hurts. It is normal. IT is grief. But, because I love myself, because I love life...I make the choice to put it aside...remember my strength and move forward.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 410019"] TL...what a great post! I love what you said here: [I]To me the first part of detachment is setting those boundaries and limits so that they learn they can not walk all over you, take advantage of you, that you will no longer enable them.[/I] [I]The other piece of learning to love life no matter what they are doing comes later I think..... [/I] I think that is most of it right there! I think detachment is not so much about or for our kids, but about and for us. Our daughter is doing some really frightening things at the moment. This happens periodically. She is not taking her medications. True, I am a bit anxious. I come here more often during these events. However, for the most part...I am calm...I am at peace. And I REALLY mean this. The reason is, that I know that no matter what....I WILL BE OK. Naturally, I hope that she too will be ok. Hexk, my difficult child (as most of the ones here) seem to land on their feet somehow. But, I've rode this rollercoaster too many times to let it influence me and my life more than just a little blip. Life moves on and I intend to enjoy it to fullest. I have the peace that comes when you know that NO MATTER WHAT...I will survive....and be strong. Can't say when I got to this point. I think it was a decision that I made. A choice. A super duper hard choice. I am not a robot and have moments that my mommy heart hurts. It is normal. IT is grief. But, because I love myself, because I love life...I make the choice to put it aside...remember my strength and move forward. [/QUOTE]
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