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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 763865" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>I’m so sorry to read of the great emotional turmoil you are in.</p><p>Our adopted daughter around the same age wasn’t doing drugs, but her behaviors were so destructive that it caused horrible anguish for my husband and I. After a particularly bad experience , we found pulling back necessary. Very helpful for us and although things were very scary there for awhile, she seems to be doing better of late and without our intervention.</p><p>We went to a few mtgs of Families Anonymous (FA) and found it helpful. They have on line mtgs too.</p><p>He is 33 …perhaps the time has come for you to pull back. Consider what basic things you might be willing to provide like a cell phone, access to doctors appointments, perhaps rehab etc and seriously consider a different approach. One of minimal involvement. They have a weird way of landing on their feet for a long long time. Let him know what you are willing to provide when you speak to him next, and that you love him ….but move on. Especially emotionally. Detach. Much is up to him. It’s his life. Nurture your relationship with your husband. Explore the things you like to do. Again…seek support from FA or a group like it. Perhaps private counseling for yourself at least for the short term. Stay strong. Wishing you well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 763865, member: 4152"] I’m so sorry to read of the great emotional turmoil you are in. Our adopted daughter around the same age wasn’t doing drugs, but her behaviors were so destructive that it caused horrible anguish for my husband and I. After a particularly bad experience , we found pulling back necessary. Very helpful for us and although things were very scary there for awhile, she seems to be doing better of late and without our intervention. We went to a few mtgs of Families Anonymous (FA) and found it helpful. They have on line mtgs too. He is 33 …perhaps the time has come for you to pull back. Consider what basic things you might be willing to provide like a cell phone, access to doctors appointments, perhaps rehab etc and seriously consider a different approach. One of minimal involvement. They have a weird way of landing on their feet for a long long time. Let him know what you are willing to provide when you speak to him next, and that you love him ….but move on. Especially emotionally. Detach. Much is up to him. It’s his life. Nurture your relationship with your husband. Explore the things you like to do. Again…seek support from FA or a group like it. Perhaps private counseling for yourself at least for the short term. Stay strong. Wishing you well. [/QUOTE]
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