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Three years since we’ve seen her
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<blockquote data-quote="overcome mom" data-source="post: 759064" data-attributes="member: 23328"><p>I am where you are. I know I have enabled my son. He is not living with us for many reasons. He is now homeless and living in his car which he says breaks down all the time. Since he got out of rehab after being in jail he has been pretty respectful to us but still continues to ask for money, which I give him on occasion. I would say it is better to keep with the texting communication. For me, once I see him a lot of my resolve goes out the window. This results in me or my husband either giving him money we shouldn't or getting into with him about what he "should" be doing.</p><p> I too feel guilty about having a big house, a camper and a cabin all that he could stay in if he was just responsible person. We have so much materially I have to keep reminding myself he just will damage it and what I give materially will not change his problems. It is ALWAYS something, always a crisis. Today, Thanksgiving, he was suppose to come over at 3. Called at 2 says he is on his way 2:30 he says an hour out,2:40 calls says he has a nail in his tire going to get it fixed and be late. At 8:20 pm I text him he calls and says he got beat up for "no reason" and can't make it, very apologetic. </p><p>It is so much better to keep your distance if you can. Your daughter doesn't appear to have changed, you seeing her is only going to make you and your husbands feel terrible about something you can do nothing about.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overcome mom, post: 759064, member: 23328"] I am where you are. I know I have enabled my son. He is not living with us for many reasons. He is now homeless and living in his car which he says breaks down all the time. Since he got out of rehab after being in jail he has been pretty respectful to us but still continues to ask for money, which I give him on occasion. I would say it is better to keep with the texting communication. For me, once I see him a lot of my resolve goes out the window. This results in me or my husband either giving him money we shouldn't or getting into with him about what he "should" be doing. I too feel guilty about having a big house, a camper and a cabin all that he could stay in if he was just responsible person. We have so much materially I have to keep reminding myself he just will damage it and what I give materially will not change his problems. It is ALWAYS something, always a crisis. Today, Thanksgiving, he was suppose to come over at 3. Called at 2 says he is on his way 2:30 he says an hour out,2:40 calls says he has a nail in his tire going to get it fixed and be late. At 8:20 pm I text him he calls and says he got beat up for "no reason" and can't make it, very apologetic. It is so much better to keep your distance if you can. Your daughter doesn't appear to have changed, you seeing her is only going to make you and your husbands feel terrible about something you can do nothing about. [/QUOTE]
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