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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 759230" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hi LeaMac, </p><p>Just wanted to reach out to you and tell you I honestly believe there isn’t a parent on this site who doesn’t live with a few regrets as far as parenting decisions go. Myself included. Maybe it was what seemed like one spanking too many or too many “Time Outs” spent in the corner. My mom used to say the corner was the only thing my sons were going to remember about their child hoods. But I never slapped them and bloodied their nose like my mom did to me when I was young. I thought what I was doing was a step up! </p><p></p><p>We can’t go back. We only have today and we all (I firmly believe) did the best we could at the time...my mom included.</p><p>Also...realize too that your daughter was likely a difficult child from birth. I know my sons were. My daughter got exactly one spanking her whole life...She just wasn’t difficult.</p><p></p><p>Try and let go of the things you can’t control. Your daughter may have work to do on herself and things to sort out if she wants to be a survivor vs a victim in this life. We all get a choice regarding this.</p><p></p><p>I today, see a counselor, not just about my sons and the “war-time” teen years that our family endured but also to help me cope with a mother who is not always very “motherly”. She keeps me at a distance. She viewed me as an Only child spoiled brat growing up. Little did any of us know, I have Bipolar Disorder and didn’t find out till I was 40 years old and going manic. </p><p></p><p>Remember...a bad moment in your life does not and should not define you. </p><p>I am sure you have been an awesome and loving parent most of the time. </p><p>In fact...You came to this Forum because you love your daughter.</p><p></p><p>If you do find that you are hurting too much about the past...you might want to see a counselor to help you let go of guilt. </p><p></p><p>hugs, </p><p>lms</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 759230, member: 3305"] Hi LeaMac, Just wanted to reach out to you and tell you I honestly believe there isn’t a parent on this site who doesn’t live with a few regrets as far as parenting decisions go. Myself included. Maybe it was what seemed like one spanking too many or too many “Time Outs” spent in the corner. My mom used to say the corner was the only thing my sons were going to remember about their child hoods. But I never slapped them and bloodied their nose like my mom did to me when I was young. I thought what I was doing was a step up! We can’t go back. We only have today and we all (I firmly believe) did the best we could at the time...my mom included. Also...realize too that your daughter was likely a difficult child from birth. I know my sons were. My daughter got exactly one spanking her whole life...She just wasn’t difficult. Try and let go of the things you can’t control. Your daughter may have work to do on herself and things to sort out if she wants to be a survivor vs a victim in this life. We all get a choice regarding this. I today, see a counselor, not just about my sons and the “war-time” teen years that our family endured but also to help me cope with a mother who is not always very “motherly”. She keeps me at a distance. She viewed me as an Only child spoiled brat growing up. Little did any of us know, I have Bipolar Disorder and didn’t find out till I was 40 years old and going manic. Remember...a bad moment in your life does not and should not define you. I am sure you have been an awesome and loving parent most of the time. In fact...You came to this Forum because you love your daughter. If you do find that you are hurting too much about the past...you might want to see a counselor to help you let go of guilt. hugs, lms [/QUOTE]
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