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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 97071" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>I think I should tell the other half of this story! Hahaha - thanks for all the support!! </p><p></p><p>I took this job shortly after my separation from exh and for all practical purposes its been the perfect job. It's 10 minutes from home. In the past I have worked from home to care for difficult child over the years; my girls have come to work with me when I had to be in the office; I have flexible hours when necessary; I get a paid one hour lunch and our health premiums are 80% paid by the company; I also get a car allowance which covers my car loan; I have 25 vacation days a year in addition to paid holidays; we get a holiday/end of year bonus - a HEALTHY one. If I need an advance on my bonus, I ask and it is given. </p><p></p><p>It's not like I work in a windowless basement under grueling conditions...no heat in winter, no a/c in summer. It's a really nice office building and I have THE corner office (all windows) with a door that closes so I can have privacy. Plus, I also have about $10,000 leftover from our old Profit Sharing program that was rolled over into my 401K when the company expanded. I also have a lot of say in company policy and Boss discusses mostly all that stuff with me to see what I think. It's actually a nice job. I feel that I am deserving of a raise, a substantial one, but I don't feel like I've been taken advantage of at all. It's just this waiting is killing me. And I do feel a little pressure these days since I no longer get child support, which is a pretty big decrease in my income, and with the added college loans, etc., I can't make ends meet on what I make alone. And it's not like we're living high off the hog. We live very simply and I am always trying to find ways of cutting costs so that I can squirrel a little away, you know?</p><p></p><p>Anyway, there is another guy who was also up for his annual in April and his hasn't been done yet. I don't think it's so much personal against me just because I'm family. I think it's two things - he REALLY is very busy traveling for business AND he figures when we tire of waiting, we will ask. Incidentally, I have to give reviews for a couple of underlings and I always make sure we're within a week of the anniversary date because I know how hard it is to live paycheck to paycheck and how much it blows. </p><p></p><p>on the other hand, I was told by my old counselor that my loco sister who is married to "bob" has narcissistic personality disorder and I truly believe that she may be part of my nervousness as well as some of his apprehension to just have the darned meeting and do it already! She's a manipulator and she has a way of whispering things in his ears that skew his views about others. I know for a fact she has done this with me in the past.</p><p></p><p>This other guy doesn't seem to mind that he's been waiting all this time and I am fairly certain that he will ask for retro pay when the time finally does arrive for him. He will ask for retro back to April and expect it. I can't help but feel ballsy for asking the same - you are right Star, I should remind him that he owes me from April the difference. Boss pays others retro when their time is due so why not me? </p><p></p><p>Karen, it's funny you said that thing about the Christmas card, because one year when I was TWO YEARS overdue for my review, I actually told my sister that I couldn't exchange gifts because money was tight. You'd think she'd say something to him. Instead she said okay and brought gifts to my house anyway - but I was on to her and had already snagged a few for her kids anyway also (she does stuff like that so she can look grand while you look like a shlump). I didn't want my kids to open gifts and hers have nothing - this was when they were much younger. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, I am going in to the office early tomorrow and maybe he will be in early also - I will try and snag him before the office starts rocking. Thanks again all!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 97071, member: 2211"] I think I should tell the other half of this story! Hahaha - thanks for all the support!! I took this job shortly after my separation from exh and for all practical purposes its been the perfect job. It's 10 minutes from home. In the past I have worked from home to care for difficult child over the years; my girls have come to work with me when I had to be in the office; I have flexible hours when necessary; I get a paid one hour lunch and our health premiums are 80% paid by the company; I also get a car allowance which covers my car loan; I have 25 vacation days a year in addition to paid holidays; we get a holiday/end of year bonus - a HEALTHY one. If I need an advance on my bonus, I ask and it is given. It's not like I work in a windowless basement under grueling conditions...no heat in winter, no a/c in summer. It's a really nice office building and I have THE corner office (all windows) with a door that closes so I can have privacy. Plus, I also have about $10,000 leftover from our old Profit Sharing program that was rolled over into my 401K when the company expanded. I also have a lot of say in company policy and Boss discusses mostly all that stuff with me to see what I think. It's actually a nice job. I feel that I am deserving of a raise, a substantial one, but I don't feel like I've been taken advantage of at all. It's just this waiting is killing me. And I do feel a little pressure these days since I no longer get child support, which is a pretty big decrease in my income, and with the added college loans, etc., I can't make ends meet on what I make alone. And it's not like we're living high off the hog. We live very simply and I am always trying to find ways of cutting costs so that I can squirrel a little away, you know? Anyway, there is another guy who was also up for his annual in April and his hasn't been done yet. I don't think it's so much personal against me just because I'm family. I think it's two things - he REALLY is very busy traveling for business AND he figures when we tire of waiting, we will ask. Incidentally, I have to give reviews for a couple of underlings and I always make sure we're within a week of the anniversary date because I know how hard it is to live paycheck to paycheck and how much it blows. on the other hand, I was told by my old counselor that my loco sister who is married to "bob" has narcissistic personality disorder and I truly believe that she may be part of my nervousness as well as some of his apprehension to just have the darned meeting and do it already! She's a manipulator and she has a way of whispering things in his ears that skew his views about others. I know for a fact she has done this with me in the past. This other guy doesn't seem to mind that he's been waiting all this time and I am fairly certain that he will ask for retro pay when the time finally does arrive for him. He will ask for retro back to April and expect it. I can't help but feel ballsy for asking the same - you are right Star, I should remind him that he owes me from April the difference. Boss pays others retro when their time is due so why not me? Karen, it's funny you said that thing about the Christmas card, because one year when I was TWO YEARS overdue for my review, I actually told my sister that I couldn't exchange gifts because money was tight. You'd think she'd say something to him. Instead she said okay and brought gifts to my house anyway - but I was on to her and had already snagged a few for her kids anyway also (she does stuff like that so she can look grand while you look like a shlump). I didn't want my kids to open gifts and hers have nothing - this was when they were much younger. Anyway, I am going in to the office early tomorrow and maybe he will be in early also - I will try and snag him before the office starts rocking. Thanks again all! [/QUOTE]
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