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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 560747" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>What a shock, I'm glad you decided to come back! I'm sure it is a mystery how in heck any court could make that kind of a decision for a vulnerable adult after their rights were terminated in the first place, but maybe that is all stuff that can be hidden...uggg. </p><p></p><p>My head said (when reading the part about your identity) what your head probably would say to anyone too.....you are not what you DO or your job. But even thinking of Q going to a group home has left me feeling like it would be a huge change in my role. We are through necessity filled beyond typical levels with our mothering role with these kids. Having that change just has to be far more complicated than the typical "empty nest" issues. As many here describe their process of detaching ..there are not many role models for doing that with a child who through no fault of their own will always remain vulnerable and dependent on some level. But we still must do that somehow. I know you have been working intently on that. I think taking those classes is amazing and one thing you can add to your list of who you are is a role model. (no pressure, that does not mean perfection, because no one wants to even have a role model who is unreachable, but I see you as someone who bounces back through so many situations on top of being a very devoted mother to her children over the years). </p><p></p><p>I hope KT finds a safe place to land. She has her issues, but she is your daughter and certainly deserves better than the lot she was handed early on. </p><p></p><p>You are never alone. You have my number and email...so please know you can text, call, email anytime. </p><p></p><p>XXOO Dee</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 560747, member: 12886"] What a shock, I'm glad you decided to come back! I'm sure it is a mystery how in heck any court could make that kind of a decision for a vulnerable adult after their rights were terminated in the first place, but maybe that is all stuff that can be hidden...uggg. My head said (when reading the part about your identity) what your head probably would say to anyone too.....you are not what you DO or your job. But even thinking of Q going to a group home has left me feeling like it would be a huge change in my role. We are through necessity filled beyond typical levels with our mothering role with these kids. Having that change just has to be far more complicated than the typical "empty nest" issues. As many here describe their process of detaching ..there are not many role models for doing that with a child who through no fault of their own will always remain vulnerable and dependent on some level. But we still must do that somehow. I know you have been working intently on that. I think taking those classes is amazing and one thing you can add to your list of who you are is a role model. (no pressure, that does not mean perfection, because no one wants to even have a role model who is unreachable, but I see you as someone who bounces back through so many situations on top of being a very devoted mother to her children over the years). I hope KT finds a safe place to land. She has her issues, but she is your daughter and certainly deserves better than the lot she was handed early on. You are never alone. You have my number and email...so please know you can text, call, email anytime. XXOO Dee [/QUOTE]
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