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Message: <blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 22634" data-attributes="member: 1514">I agree with totoro.  Most of us are pretty much alone here in dealing with our kids.  I am an only child to older parents.  My mom ended up with alzheimers and is now deceased.  My dad is in his 80s.  My parents were divorced for years before that.  I didnt have any support except from their dad.  Im so thankful we were in this together.  I didnt end up getting help for myself until I was 38 and I am still in the process of getting that help for myself.  I wish I had started sooner.  It would have made things so much better when dealing with the kids.  No, it wouldnt have changed THEM but it would have helped ME.  If I were in your shoes I would be calling every agency that has to do with problem kids you can find.  Leave no stone unturned.  There are services out there you just have to find them.  Knock on doors until someone hears your anguish.  Make the school step up to the plate, make the doctors do their jobs.  Ignore husband if he isnt a help.  Take parenting classes if needed to learn to deal with your son, get therapy for yourself, get on medications if they will help.  This is a marathon, it isnt a sprint and you have a while to go until your son is grown.  Even at 18 it doesnt mean he will be out of the house.  I have two who are still at home over 18.  Parenting is a lifetime commitment.  I arrived at this board completely stressed out and ready to sell my son to the traveling gypsies.  He was so out of control he was doing things you dont even want to know about.  Some who have been around forever here have said he was one of the more severe cases on here.  He was 12.  He is now 20 and while he isnt cured or perfect, he isnt the kid he was then.</blockquote>

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