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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 304680" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">JJJ,</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I truly empathasize. I've learned with the tweedles that it isn't necessarily learned behavior, rather very habitual, if you will.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">We've (to date) gotten the medications where they are going to be; & there have been good & bad times with kt & wm. However, with all the services & add'l skills they kt & wm know what they are supposed to do. What isn't appropiate. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I've found that asking kt to do a chore, or some school related thing, she starts with the whining & rachets it up. It's a habit - a survival skill that worked in foster care, in bio home. It doesn't work here & she knows it, but continues to use it. As much as we've worked to give her the skills to deal with requests, social outings & the like she goes back to the old habits. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">wm is much the same. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">For us (I'm not sure on your side) it's the continuing survival skills that are so engrained - push away anyone who loves or cares; push away the new because it's terrifying even though the continued old skills are even more terrifying.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">kanga is an old excuse. She's been used because the kidlets know she has caused so much stress within the family unit - with-o her there your difficult children just don't seem to be able to use the skills I know they have been taught. Just easier to blame kanga.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Days like this drive me up the proverbial wall. I remind the tweedles they are safe & have been since 2000 - they're last foster placement & permanent placement here. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Sending you many difficult child parental hugs. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 304680, member: 393"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS]JJJ, I truly empathasize. I've learned with the tweedles that it isn't necessarily learned behavior, rather very habitual, if you will. We've (to date) gotten the medications where they are going to be; & there have been good & bad times with kt & wm. However, with all the services & add'l skills they kt & wm know what they are supposed to do. What isn't appropiate. I've found that asking kt to do a chore, or some school related thing, she starts with the whining & rachets it up. It's a habit - a survival skill that worked in foster care, in bio home. It doesn't work here & she knows it, but continues to use it. As much as we've worked to give her the skills to deal with requests, social outings & the like she goes back to the old habits. wm is much the same. For us (I'm not sure on your side) it's the continuing survival skills that are so engrained - push away anyone who loves or cares; push away the new because it's terrifying even though the continued old skills are even more terrifying. kanga is an old excuse. She's been used because the kidlets know she has caused so much stress within the family unit - with-o her there your difficult children just don't seem to be able to use the skills I know they have been taught. Just easier to blame kanga. Days like this drive me up the proverbial wall. I remind the tweedles they are safe & have been since 2000 - they're last foster placement & permanent placement here. Sending you many difficult child parental hugs. [/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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