Lori, welcome back.
Sorry for all the questions, but I just want to help point you in the right direction:
You mention anxiety and mood swings plus a family history of depression and bipolar disorder. What symptoms lead you to believe your difficult child has ADD (besides the counselor mentioning it)? What do you think made the counselor say today that difficult child has ADD?
You mention difficulty making friends. Does your difficult child have any friends? How does she do in school, both academically and with peers?
Any sensory issues (sensitivity to clothing tags, food textures, loud noises, for example)?
Any speech or developmental delays?
When she went to preschool, what behaviors were you seeing that made it obvious she was having problems?
What are some of her impulsive behaviors?
As you can see, you will find a lot of support here.
