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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 322698" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>I think one of the important things these various co-dependent support groups teach is the importance of establishing your personal boundaries and bottom-line behaviors. These are deal-breaker situations and lines you absolutely refuse to cross, no matter what. Until you can clearly identify what those are, and articulate them to your "qualifying" person (If you cross line X, I will do Y), you're likely to continue in the cycle of co-dep behavior. Once you've identified those boundaries and clearly laid it out to the other person, you have to be prepared to follow through on your "Y" action. That truly is the hardest part for co-dep's (in my own personal experience, anyway).</p><p> </p><p>It all boils down to being true to yourself and honoring your word to the other person. In the addict's case, their biggest problem is not being true to themself or the people around them.</p><p> </p><p>SP, I hope he hears you and realizes the severity of the situation he's in and what's at risk. And I pray for your courage, strength, and wisdom!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 322698, member: 3444"] I think one of the important things these various co-dependent support groups teach is the importance of establishing your personal boundaries and bottom-line behaviors. These are deal-breaker situations and lines you absolutely refuse to cross, no matter what. Until you can clearly identify what those are, and articulate them to your "qualifying" person (If you cross line X, I will do Y), you're likely to continue in the cycle of co-dep behavior. Once you've identified those boundaries and clearly laid it out to the other person, you have to be prepared to follow through on your "Y" action. That truly is the hardest part for co-dep's (in my own personal experience, anyway). It all boils down to being true to yourself and honoring your word to the other person. In the addict's case, their biggest problem is not being true to themself or the people around them. SP, I hope he hears you and realizes the severity of the situation he's in and what's at risk. And I pray for your courage, strength, and wisdom! [/QUOTE]
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