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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 610871" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>My take on this is as follows:</p><p></p><p>My children -- even my adult children -- have no "right to privacy" in my household. It is my household and I'm responsible for what goes on under my roof. I will go through rooms, bags, closets and pockets at will. All of my children, both the trustworthy ones and the non-trustworthy ones, know this and they accept it. It's not snooping in my view, it's looking after my family and being aware of what they're all doing.</p><p></p><p>I know all passwords to all accounts, and regularly log in and see what they're up to. Computers are set up with logging and tracking software to see their internet usage history. This is all just a matter of course. It's not something I start doing when I think there's trouble, it's something I do all the time.</p><p></p><p>When difficult child was in his teens, I used to toss his room at frequent, random intervals, at least twice a week. This involved taking his bed apart, checking between and under the sheets, flipping the mattress, checking for tears at the seams and searching inside them, searching drawers, cupboard, pockets, the insides of his shoes, backpack, etc. Everywhere he could possibly hide things (and even places where it seemed "impossible") would be searched. I even got the school Guidance Dept on board and they let me go through his locker at school.</p><p></p><p>You do what you need to in order to keep your family safe.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 610871, member: 3907"] My take on this is as follows: My children -- even my adult children -- have no "right to privacy" in my household. It is my household and I'm responsible for what goes on under my roof. I will go through rooms, bags, closets and pockets at will. All of my children, both the trustworthy ones and the non-trustworthy ones, know this and they accept it. It's not snooping in my view, it's looking after my family and being aware of what they're all doing. I know all passwords to all accounts, and regularly log in and see what they're up to. Computers are set up with logging and tracking software to see their internet usage history. This is all just a matter of course. It's not something I start doing when I think there's trouble, it's something I do all the time. When difficult child was in his teens, I used to toss his room at frequent, random intervals, at least twice a week. This involved taking his bed apart, checking between and under the sheets, flipping the mattress, checking for tears at the seams and searching inside them, searching drawers, cupboard, pockets, the insides of his shoes, backpack, etc. Everywhere he could possibly hide things (and even places where it seemed "impossible") would be searched. I even got the school Guidance Dept on board and they let me go through his locker at school. You do what you need to in order to keep your family safe. [/QUOTE]
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