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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 636864" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Just take it as it comes, one moment at a time. </p><p></p><p>Keep thinking first about what is right for you. It is long past time to evoke the 51 percent rule. You are 51%. He is 49%. It is now your time first with him second. If you will keep this 1% edge, you will start to make decisions that are best for you and strangely, those decisions will also be best for him.</p><p></p><p>The mommy days are past. He is a man and it is time to take responsibility as a man. </p><p></p><p>Don't get confused by your feelings. Your feelings are real but they are not facts, in terms of being your guideposts. Feel them but don't act on them. In order to do this you will have to have time and space and distance from him. Strangely, that Is also what he needs as well so he can have a real chance to grow up. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. You are in the thick of it. Go slow. Write down what you want to say and do and refer to that when you are confused and upset and are triggered to go back to your old behaviors. We are here circling the wagons around you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 636864, member: 17542"] Just take it as it comes, one moment at a time. Keep thinking first about what is right for you. It is long past time to evoke the 51 percent rule. You are 51%. He is 49%. It is now your time first with him second. If you will keep this 1% edge, you will start to make decisions that are best for you and strangely, those decisions will also be best for him. The mommy days are past. He is a man and it is time to take responsibility as a man. Don't get confused by your feelings. Your feelings are real but they are not facts, in terms of being your guideposts. Feel them but don't act on them. In order to do this you will have to have time and space and distance from him. Strangely, that Is also what he needs as well so he can have a real chance to grow up. Hang in there. You are in the thick of it. Go slow. Write down what you want to say and do and refer to that when you are confused and upset and are triggered to go back to your old behaviors. We are here circling the wagons around you. [/QUOTE]
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