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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 636947" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I hope that somewhere in that stew of emotions that you are feeling is pride for yourself. Why? Because you are an amazing and awesome mom who gave her son what he needed. Yes, by pressing charges, by not dropping them because he went to detox, by not 'letting it go', by not letting him stay wtih you, you are giving him what he really NEEDS. At his age I was married, with a child, a job, a mortgage, and going to school full time. So were a LOT of people I knew. Sure some were partying and lost, but mostly by age 23 or so we had moved past that point to the working to build a future or at least pay most of our way.</p><p></p><p>You may want to search the forum for the phrase "Do to Get". It is a phrase that I remember from Fran, the previous site owner. If he wants something, he must do something for you to get it. Period. You set the terms, and that is that. If he really wants something, he will do what you say he needs to do to earn it. It is simple and not at the same time. It is also very effective, in my opinion, esp with adult difficult children.</p><p></p><p>Hugs, and stay strong. You really ARE doing the right thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 636947, member: 1233"] I hope that somewhere in that stew of emotions that you are feeling is pride for yourself. Why? Because you are an amazing and awesome mom who gave her son what he needed. Yes, by pressing charges, by not dropping them because he went to detox, by not 'letting it go', by not letting him stay wtih you, you are giving him what he really NEEDS. At his age I was married, with a child, a job, a mortgage, and going to school full time. So were a LOT of people I knew. Sure some were partying and lost, but mostly by age 23 or so we had moved past that point to the working to build a future or at least pay most of our way. You may want to search the forum for the phrase "Do to Get". It is a phrase that I remember from Fran, the previous site owner. If he wants something, he must do something for you to get it. Period. You set the terms, and that is that. If he really wants something, he will do what you say he needs to do to earn it. It is simple and not at the same time. It is also very effective, in my opinion, esp with adult difficult children. Hugs, and stay strong. You really ARE doing the right thing. [/QUOTE]
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