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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 152632" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>I understand you're angry but there is a huge difference between consequences and punishment. I also understand exactly how dangerous his behavior was, both in the car and in the parking lot. It seems as if your son has learned his lesson -- at least for awhile. At this point, I'd let it go. I would discuss exactly what the consequences will be if he ever throws anything in a vehicle again and those consequences would be dire.</p><p> </p><p>I know for my daughter at that age, I would pull over as soon as I could when she started getting agitated. There was just no way she could control herself. One consequence of throwing things was they were gone -- permanently -- and it didn't matter what it was. If she threw it, it was then mine to do with as I deemed appropriate but it would never again be hers. Losing her favorite stuffy, umbrella and pair of shoes did in fact stop the throwing. Also, when she was agitated in the car, when I pulled over, I would get out of the car. This gave her a chance to cool down with no audience to fuel her.</p><p> </p><p>My daughter was a runner. One thing I found that worked was letting her walk while I drove slowly at a distance behind her but where she was always visible. We talked about me doing this beforehand. The rule was always that she would walk in the direction of home, no paths that the car could not follow and no repercussions when we got home. If the distance was under five miles, she would not be getting back into the car -- she chose to get out and walk, walk it she would. Over five miles and I would let her get back in the car when she was truly tired. She also knew that if she broke the rules, I would call the police and they really did not like chasing her down. If that happened, all privileges at home were lost for the rest of that day. Strangely, it was one of the few consequences that she accepted. Somewhere in the recesses of her wonderful mind, it all seemed fair to her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 152632, member: 3626"] I understand you're angry but there is a huge difference between consequences and punishment. I also understand exactly how dangerous his behavior was, both in the car and in the parking lot. It seems as if your son has learned his lesson -- at least for awhile. At this point, I'd let it go. I would discuss exactly what the consequences will be if he ever throws anything in a vehicle again and those consequences would be dire. I know for my daughter at that age, I would pull over as soon as I could when she started getting agitated. There was just no way she could control herself. One consequence of throwing things was they were gone -- permanently -- and it didn't matter what it was. If she threw it, it was then mine to do with as I deemed appropriate but it would never again be hers. Losing her favorite stuffy, umbrella and pair of shoes did in fact stop the throwing. Also, when she was agitated in the car, when I pulled over, I would get out of the car. This gave her a chance to cool down with no audience to fuel her. My daughter was a runner. One thing I found that worked was letting her walk while I drove slowly at a distance behind her but where she was always visible. We talked about me doing this beforehand. The rule was always that she would walk in the direction of home, no paths that the car could not follow and no repercussions when we got home. If the distance was under five miles, she would not be getting back into the car -- she chose to get out and walk, walk it she would. Over five miles and I would let her get back in the car when she was truly tired. She also knew that if she broke the rules, I would call the police and they really did not like chasing her down. If that happened, all privileges at home were lost for the rest of that day. Strangely, it was one of the few consequences that she accepted. Somewhere in the recesses of her wonderful mind, it all seemed fair to her. [/QUOTE]
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