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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 152703" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Hello Christy,</p><p>First of all, you handled a difficult and dangerous situation beautifully. </p><p></p><p>With regard to consequences, you've received great advice from the others on what works and what doesn't, so I just want to weigh in with my perspective on punishment.</p><p></p><p>I have found that a natural immediate consequence, with no further repercussions works best. If the behaviour happens again, your difficult child knows what the consequence will be, and knows what to expect.</p><p></p><p>With my difficult child, if I made the punishment too severe, or it went on longer than a day or two, he ended up feeling hard done by and unfairly treated, which is exactly the opposite of how I wanted him to feel. By that point he had forgotten all about what he did wrong, and mom was just now being mean for no good reason, which made him more defiant and started the whole mess escalating to an untenable level.</p><p></p><p>I also found that taking away privileges for more than a day didn't work at all. After a day, difficult child adapted and lost interest in whatever it was, so it ceased to work.</p><p></p><p>It's a fine line we tread, and I think you've walked it well. To add anything else might just upset the balance.</p><p></p><p>Just my $0.02</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 152703, member: 3907"] Hello Christy, First of all, you handled a difficult and dangerous situation beautifully. With regard to consequences, you've received great advice from the others on what works and what doesn't, so I just want to weigh in with my perspective on punishment. I have found that a natural immediate consequence, with no further repercussions works best. If the behaviour happens again, your difficult child knows what the consequence will be, and knows what to expect. With my difficult child, if I made the punishment too severe, or it went on longer than a day or two, he ended up feeling hard done by and unfairly treated, which is exactly the opposite of how I wanted him to feel. By that point he had forgotten all about what he did wrong, and mom was just now being mean for no good reason, which made him more defiant and started the whole mess escalating to an untenable level. I also found that taking away privileges for more than a day didn't work at all. After a day, difficult child adapted and lost interest in whatever it was, so it ceased to work. It's a fine line we tread, and I think you've walked it well. To add anything else might just upset the balance. Just my $0.02 Trinity [/QUOTE]
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