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Too good at fosterhome, they are talking about her being transferred to Residential.
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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 443308" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>I have over 2 years experience now with 2 different RTCs one was a private place and one is a specific therapy (DBT) state funded placement with only 16 beds for the whole state. Both came with lots of recommendations. Both have their good, bad and ugly. I have had to be vigilant at both places so that her medical care was taken care of. She is also a victom type, so I have had to advocate a great deal for her safety. The cost has been that I am seen as over protective. Small price to pay for treatment and they know they better handle her with great care and do what they are suppose to do. We tried therapeutic foster care and day treatment first as well-I knew she would run and we would have trouble. The bottom line with our difficult children is that it isn't the home environment that is the problem to begin with-I will say that with such a troubled child the home, any honme will end up troubled. Many of our kids require so much more than we can provide to stabilize them. Teen years especially hard with girls. We have the added burdon of worrying about pregnancy. Birth control compliance can even be tricky. Yours is approaching these yeaRS.</p><p></p><p>All RTCs are different. Make sure this is one that helps kids with mental illnesses. <strong>I would not refuse the chance but I would ask a lot of questions</strong>. A state group home is not the answer. These are full of kids waiting for placements or who no foster home will take again(In our state). There are risks to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC)-kids can become institutionalized, learn new tricks etc. But what other options do you have? Is this a therapeutic home? What day treatment has she been getting?</p><p></p><p>Is she properly diagnosed and medicated. I've read that some kids with ADHD diagnosis later end up with a bipolar diagnosis. There are some here who think that ADHD is on the spectrum (I totally diasagree for many reasons), but the symptoms often overlap with mental illnesses and neurologic conditions and it can be tricky. After all the brain is the control center for behavior and behavior is often how these problems make themselves known. She just seems to fly off the handle so quickly and is violent? I'm just wondering about all that. </p><p></p><p>I can't remember from your other posts-have you read <u>Lost at School</u>? Collaborative problem solving may be a way for you to handle her on home visits.I recommend a look at it as she flew off the handle when you gave her the consequence for breaking the Wii. I've some luck with it at school and with my daughter. I don't believe it is the only way to go, but it has great merit as a tool to help teach them skills and also to involve them in problem solving their own situations.</p><p></p><p>Hugs to you and know you are not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 443308, member: 11001"] I have over 2 years experience now with 2 different RTCs one was a private place and one is a specific therapy (DBT) state funded placement with only 16 beds for the whole state. Both came with lots of recommendations. Both have their good, bad and ugly. I have had to be vigilant at both places so that her medical care was taken care of. She is also a victom type, so I have had to advocate a great deal for her safety. The cost has been that I am seen as over protective. Small price to pay for treatment and they know they better handle her with great care and do what they are suppose to do. We tried therapeutic foster care and day treatment first as well-I knew she would run and we would have trouble. The bottom line with our difficult children is that it isn't the home environment that is the problem to begin with-I will say that with such a troubled child the home, any honme will end up troubled. Many of our kids require so much more than we can provide to stabilize them. Teen years especially hard with girls. We have the added burdon of worrying about pregnancy. Birth control compliance can even be tricky. Yours is approaching these yeaRS. All RTCs are different. Make sure this is one that helps kids with mental illnesses. [B]I would not refuse the chance but I would ask a lot of questions[/B]. A state group home is not the answer. These are full of kids waiting for placements or who no foster home will take again(In our state). There are risks to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC)-kids can become institutionalized, learn new tricks etc. But what other options do you have? Is this a therapeutic home? What day treatment has she been getting? Is she properly diagnosed and medicated. I've read that some kids with ADHD diagnosis later end up with a bipolar diagnosis. There are some here who think that ADHD is on the spectrum (I totally diasagree for many reasons), but the symptoms often overlap with mental illnesses and neurologic conditions and it can be tricky. After all the brain is the control center for behavior and behavior is often how these problems make themselves known. She just seems to fly off the handle so quickly and is violent? I'm just wondering about all that. I can't remember from your other posts-have you read [U]Lost at School[/U]? Collaborative problem solving may be a way for you to handle her on home visits.I recommend a look at it as she flew off the handle when you gave her the consequence for breaking the Wii. I've some luck with it at school and with my daughter. I don't believe it is the only way to go, but it has great merit as a tool to help teach them skills and also to involve them in problem solving their own situations. Hugs to you and know you are not alone. [/QUOTE]
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