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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 228577" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong>BBK,</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong>I pick my battles wisely, however I know what battles I'm willing to take on before they even arise. My line in the sand has been & always will be medication compliance, physical &/or verbal abuse, & respect for others.</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong>Saying that, I have learned early on to give my tweedles 2 choices & no more. If they choose other than what has been offered they get nothing. After a bit of training on my part, kt & wm learned that what I said is what I meant. They had 2 choices & that is what they learned to live with.</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong>When they were younger I offered them "redo's" so they could gather their thoughts on what I was offering them. You wouldn't believe how many "redo's" I've lived through. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong>To this day when I walk into a store with kt & on the very rare occasion with wm, I let them know what we are there for & what we are going to pick up. The same with a restaurant ~ we go over the menu before we walk in to order. The biggest battle is the soda - I allow anything non caffeinated. </strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong>It's taken a lot of time & practice to get this down. I've found when I offer 2 (sometimes 3 if I have time) choices things run much smoother. We still use "redo's" & the occasional "stop & think" to slow down the thought processes & see what is being offered.</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong>As kt & wm are teenagers & much "cooler" they don't want to be embarassed in public ~ they've learned to accept the adults decisions. Because of that, I've learned to lighten up & let them make choices themselves & within reason.</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong>Good luck.</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><strong></strong></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 228577, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS][B]BBK, I pick my battles wisely, however I know what battles I'm willing to take on before they even arise. My line in the sand has been & always will be medication compliance, physical &/or verbal abuse, & respect for others. Saying that, I have learned early on to give my tweedles 2 choices & no more. If they choose other than what has been offered they get nothing. After a bit of training on my part, kt & wm learned that what I said is what I meant. They had 2 choices & that is what they learned to live with. When they were younger I offered them "redo's" so they could gather their thoughts on what I was offering them. You wouldn't believe how many "redo's" I've lived through. :winking: To this day when I walk into a store with kt & on the very rare occasion with wm, I let them know what we are there for & what we are going to pick up. The same with a restaurant ~ we go over the menu before we walk in to order. The biggest battle is the soda - I allow anything non caffeinated. It's taken a lot of time & practice to get this down. I've found when I offer 2 (sometimes 3 if I have time) choices things run much smoother. We still use "redo's" & the occasional "stop & think" to slow down the thought processes & see what is being offered. As kt & wm are teenagers & much "cooler" they don't want to be embarassed in public ~ they've learned to accept the adults decisions. Because of that, I've learned to lighten up & let them make choices themselves & within reason. Good luck. [/B][/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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