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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 622627" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Thank you COM, your source is a wise man. Seems as we "boomers" approach our older years, we are changing that landscape in our perceptions of how to age. </p><p></p><p>I personally straddle that line between the 'real' world and the spiritual.....I can see that clearly with my difficult child with my mothers heart connected to her in some intrinsic way along with my inner knowledge that recognizes she is on the path of her destiny, her own spiritual path which doesn't look like mine and I may not understand. It seems it is a tug of war between a human need to control based in fear and a spiritual desire to trust, to trust life, to trust a Higher Power, to trust myself. To trust in the order and design of the Universe that has nothing to do with what I am doing, but everything to do with my learning how to 'BE' and have love in my heart. </p><p></p><p>I used to think that love in my heart for others was the key to a strong connection to a spiritual way of life.........however, as I have gotten older I recognize that that love has to begin with loving myself. The Buddhist guideline of loving kindness and doing no harm includes doing no harm to myself, with judgments, blame, expectations, fears, all of it. It also means turning that compassion onto myself. My observation is that when we are younger our focus is external as opposed to internal. Turning that light inward can lead to a richness and wholeness which can't seem to be accessed well in the busyness of life. We have to make time for that, time for ourselves and time to connect with our interpretation of divinity. </p><p></p><p>I agree about the first and second halves of life, and for me, finding ourselves has everything to do with loving ourselves, accepting ourselves and honoring ourselves. I believe as we go deeper into ourselves to learn that, our connection to our difficult child's changes dramatically and we can let them go into their own fate and trust, no matter what it looks like, that they are safe in the hands of a higher power. That is a large life lesson and those of us on this board are on the fast track of that growth.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 622627, member: 13542"] Thank you COM, your source is a wise man. Seems as we "boomers" approach our older years, we are changing that landscape in our perceptions of how to age. I personally straddle that line between the 'real' world and the spiritual.....I can see that clearly with my difficult child with my mothers heart connected to her in some intrinsic way along with my inner knowledge that recognizes she is on the path of her destiny, her own spiritual path which doesn't look like mine and I may not understand. It seems it is a tug of war between a human need to control based in fear and a spiritual desire to trust, to trust life, to trust a Higher Power, to trust myself. To trust in the order and design of the Universe that has nothing to do with what I am doing, but everything to do with my learning how to 'BE' and have love in my heart. I used to think that love in my heart for others was the key to a strong connection to a spiritual way of life.........however, as I have gotten older I recognize that that love has to begin with loving myself. The Buddhist guideline of loving kindness and doing no harm includes doing no harm to myself, with judgments, blame, expectations, fears, all of it. It also means turning that compassion onto myself. My observation is that when we are younger our focus is external as opposed to internal. Turning that light inward can lead to a richness and wholeness which can't seem to be accessed well in the busyness of life. We have to make time for that, time for ourselves and time to connect with our interpretation of divinity. I agree about the first and second halves of life, and for me, finding ourselves has everything to do with loving ourselves, accepting ourselves and honoring ourselves. I believe as we go deeper into ourselves to learn that, our connection to our difficult child's changes dramatically and we can let them go into their own fate and trust, no matter what it looks like, that they are safe in the hands of a higher power. That is a large life lesson and those of us on this board are on the fast track of that growth. [/QUOTE]
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