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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 411911" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Ok, havent been here in like a week so I am not up to speed on what you have been doing lately. Any luck yet on getting her in with a doctor yet? Have you started with that therapist yet? </p><p></p><p>Ok on her defiance and harassment here is what I would do, I would give her a bedtime. Every night she has to go to bed at say 9:30 since she is 12. I think that is what my kids bedtime was at her age. Yes I know I was strict! I would allow her to have a TV in her room but if you have satellite or cable make it basic or just put a dvd player in there. Also let her have plenty of books and audio books. I cant sleep without my TV and neither can most people in my family including my granddaughter. Tell her bedtime is 9:30 and lights out is 10. TV or book light can be on after that if she is reading but she must be in the bed. No coming out unless it is for the bathroom. If you have to put her to bed, DO NOT TALK TO HER AT ALL. Just walk her back to bed and close the door. Do this over and over for as many times as it takes. It may take you a long time but eventually it will take. You just have to not engage her at all no matter what she says to you. If she continues to act up over this, the next day you can tell her that if she continues to make these long scenes at night that you will lower her bedtime to 8:30 in order to give you time to get her to sleep. And do it. Eventually she is going to get the point that you are not going to give in to her demands. If this still doesnt work, go in and remove all her nice things. The TV you provided, the books, the radio, the toys...everything but the bed, the blanket and the pillow. Then do the bedtime and the putting her to bed. She will eventually decide being nice is going to get her the good things.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 411911, member: 1514"] Ok, havent been here in like a week so I am not up to speed on what you have been doing lately. Any luck yet on getting her in with a doctor yet? Have you started with that therapist yet? Ok on her defiance and harassment here is what I would do, I would give her a bedtime. Every night she has to go to bed at say 9:30 since she is 12. I think that is what my kids bedtime was at her age. Yes I know I was strict! I would allow her to have a TV in her room but if you have satellite or cable make it basic or just put a dvd player in there. Also let her have plenty of books and audio books. I cant sleep without my TV and neither can most people in my family including my granddaughter. Tell her bedtime is 9:30 and lights out is 10. TV or book light can be on after that if she is reading but she must be in the bed. No coming out unless it is for the bathroom. If you have to put her to bed, DO NOT TALK TO HER AT ALL. Just walk her back to bed and close the door. Do this over and over for as many times as it takes. It may take you a long time but eventually it will take. You just have to not engage her at all no matter what she says to you. If she continues to act up over this, the next day you can tell her that if she continues to make these long scenes at night that you will lower her bedtime to 8:30 in order to give you time to get her to sleep. And do it. Eventually she is going to get the point that you are not going to give in to her demands. If this still doesnt work, go in and remove all her nice things. The TV you provided, the books, the radio, the toys...everything but the bed, the blanket and the pillow. Then do the bedtime and the putting her to bed. She will eventually decide being nice is going to get her the good things. [/QUOTE]
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