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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 49504" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>Thank you all for such wonderful advice! As always, I knew I came to the right place! </p><p></p><p>I am starting to agree that, as you have all advised, a court order is the best way to go. We have been informed that while CPS and the judge and our difficult child's GAL will make RECOMMENDATIONS as to what visitation should be, they will not enter an order unless we go to family court. We have also been informed that in 99% of all cases involving CPS, when recommendations are made by CPS, the FAMILY COURTS will support those recommendations, so I don't think that getting the supervised visitation will be a problem.</p><p></p><p>The other big thing is, her bio mom just started working some crazy hours (m-f 7-7) which has made it nearly impossible for CPS to handle the supervised visitation, becuase their visit supervisors don't work the right hours, and her caseworker has asked me if I would be willing to supervise. At first I didn't think it would be any big deal (bio mom and I have a decently workable relationship), I had supervised before on special occasions and "extra" visits, but yesterday I did the first "regularly scheduled" supervision, and I am not sure it is going to work out. See, when CPS supervises, bio mom is the "parent" and she is the one responsible for "parenting" during a visit, and having me there, I felt that I should step OUTSIDE the parenting role and try to be JUST THE SUPERVISOR, and let bio mom handle our difficult child's behavior problems during the visit, and she just DOESN'T handle them. I had SUCH a difficult time yesterday watching while bio mom gave into her every want and wish (she didn't even ask NICELY and mom was practically throwing whatever she wanted at her). Pretty much choosing to ignore our difficult child's socially unacceptable behaviors, or just giggling at her when she did something obnoxious!!!!! It was TOTALLY unbelievable!!! Then if that wasn't bad enough, it was time to go, our two hours was up and suddenly I AM THE BAD GUY because I am taking her away from her mom when she doesn't want to go!!!!! It is unfortunate, but I simply don't know what else to do, I am going to have to call her caseworker and tell her that she is going to have to make other arrangements. </p><p></p><p>This is partly another reason I think we will hard time working things out among ourselves after CPS steps out...if there is no court order, we WILL be responsible for supervising if mom were to agree to it, and I just don't think I can do it! If we get a court order, then the courts will appoint a supervisor and it will be off our hands again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 49504, member: 3527"] Thank you all for such wonderful advice! As always, I knew I came to the right place! I am starting to agree that, as you have all advised, a court order is the best way to go. We have been informed that while CPS and the judge and our difficult child's GAL will make RECOMMENDATIONS as to what visitation should be, they will not enter an order unless we go to family court. We have also been informed that in 99% of all cases involving CPS, when recommendations are made by CPS, the FAMILY COURTS will support those recommendations, so I don't think that getting the supervised visitation will be a problem. The other big thing is, her bio mom just started working some crazy hours (m-f 7-7) which has made it nearly impossible for CPS to handle the supervised visitation, becuase their visit supervisors don't work the right hours, and her caseworker has asked me if I would be willing to supervise. At first I didn't think it would be any big deal (bio mom and I have a decently workable relationship), I had supervised before on special occasions and "extra" visits, but yesterday I did the first "regularly scheduled" supervision, and I am not sure it is going to work out. See, when CPS supervises, bio mom is the "parent" and she is the one responsible for "parenting" during a visit, and having me there, I felt that I should step OUTSIDE the parenting role and try to be JUST THE SUPERVISOR, and let bio mom handle our difficult child's behavior problems during the visit, and she just DOESN'T handle them. I had SUCH a difficult time yesterday watching while bio mom gave into her every want and wish (she didn't even ask NICELY and mom was practically throwing whatever she wanted at her). Pretty much choosing to ignore our difficult child's socially unacceptable behaviors, or just giggling at her when she did something obnoxious!!!!! It was TOTALLY unbelievable!!! Then if that wasn't bad enough, it was time to go, our two hours was up and suddenly I AM THE BAD GUY because I am taking her away from her mom when she doesn't want to go!!!!! It is unfortunate, but I simply don't know what else to do, I am going to have to call her caseworker and tell her that she is going to have to make other arrangements. This is partly another reason I think we will hard time working things out among ourselves after CPS steps out...if there is no court order, we WILL be responsible for supervising if mom were to agree to it, and I just don't think I can do it! If we get a court order, then the courts will appoint a supervisor and it will be off our hands again. [/QUOTE]
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