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<blockquote data-quote="Christy" data-source="post: 150684" data-attributes="member: 225"><p>Okay, I'm taking an informal poll. What would you do?</p><p></p><p>Here's the situation... </p><p></p><p>I signed difficult child up for a Challenger Baseball League (little league for kids with special needs). He was excited about signing up, he was excited and looking forward to the practices, but the practices have been a rough. The problem is that he becomes so excited and overstimulated around groups of kids that he just can't control himself. </p><p></p><p>During the first practice he began pushing and shoving while running the bases but once they started a "game" he did pretty well. The only other issue was that a little boy was holding a dinosaur, one of my difficult child's obsessions, and so difficult child immediately morphed into a t-rex and spent the entire practice in the character of a growling dinosaur. All that growling does wonders in the social skills department-lol! But all and all since he did involve himself in the game and there were no tantrums, I considered it a success.</p><p></p><p>The second practice, he was extremely hyper and bordering on explosive from the get go (despite a good dinner and well timed medication, these things usually help). Someone was wearing a pirate shirt so he became a pirate complete with one eye closed and his hand formed like a hook. His vocabulary cosisted of, "argh matey". I said to him very kindly, "We're here for baseball not to be pirates, are you ready to hit the field?" He yelled at me and told me to stop controlling him and then stormed off edge of the property to sulk. </p><p></p><p>He noticed the brother of another player jumping off the bleachers and went over to join him. They engaged in a few rounds of super hero style play fighting, which was fine. But when the boy wanted to stop, difficult child could not take the hint and spent a long time following this kid around trying to engage him in a "fight." </p><p></p><p>I managed to coax him into the game a few times but he was not interested in the game. He went back into pirate mode instead. When the practice was over, he was in seventh heaven running around with the kids, in his wild-child style, oblivious to the fact that many of the younger kids were frightened by him and he was continuously invading their personal space with his growling and "hook hand". </p><p></p><p>When it was time to leave, he went into total meltdown, he ran away from me, kicked the fence repaeatedly, and then took off for the van that was parked on the street. By the time I caught up to him, he had set off the alarm on the van and was kicking the side of it. Once in the van he was kicking and banging on window, furious that we were leaving. He threw his shoes at me as well. </p><p></p><p>Still furious at home. He slammed things, splashed bath water everywhere, and went to bed mad at the world. </p><p></p><p>So husband and I talked about it and he is of the opinion that it is just too over stimulating and we should bag it for this year. I am in partial agreement with husband but the first practice was better and difficult child, while having little interest in baseball, loves the idea of a team uniform and being part of something. The people there are very nice and accepting and as you know, this is not always the case with difficult children. However, on the flip side, the wide open fields, parking areas, and large groups of people make it very hard to contain a meltdown safely. Why do I want to endure this twice a week? He is involved in tae kwon do and this goes significantly better than the baseball experiences but due to his behaviors, his opportunities to socialize with other kids is limited and I would like to provide him more chances to do so.</p><p></p><p>So here's my dilema. The first game is Saturday. What would you do?</p><p>Thanks for the input,</p><p>Christy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Christy, post: 150684, member: 225"] Okay, I'm taking an informal poll. What would you do? Here's the situation... I signed difficult child up for a Challenger Baseball League (little league for kids with special needs). He was excited about signing up, he was excited and looking forward to the practices, but the practices have been a rough. The problem is that he becomes so excited and overstimulated around groups of kids that he just can't control himself. During the first practice he began pushing and shoving while running the bases but once they started a "game" he did pretty well. The only other issue was that a little boy was holding a dinosaur, one of my difficult child's obsessions, and so difficult child immediately morphed into a t-rex and spent the entire practice in the character of a growling dinosaur. All that growling does wonders in the social skills department-lol! But all and all since he did involve himself in the game and there were no tantrums, I considered it a success. The second practice, he was extremely hyper and bordering on explosive from the get go (despite a good dinner and well timed medication, these things usually help). Someone was wearing a pirate shirt so he became a pirate complete with one eye closed and his hand formed like a hook. His vocabulary cosisted of, "argh matey". I said to him very kindly, "We're here for baseball not to be pirates, are you ready to hit the field?" He yelled at me and told me to stop controlling him and then stormed off edge of the property to sulk. He noticed the brother of another player jumping off the bleachers and went over to join him. They engaged in a few rounds of super hero style play fighting, which was fine. But when the boy wanted to stop, difficult child could not take the hint and spent a long time following this kid around trying to engage him in a "fight." I managed to coax him into the game a few times but he was not interested in the game. He went back into pirate mode instead. When the practice was over, he was in seventh heaven running around with the kids, in his wild-child style, oblivious to the fact that many of the younger kids were frightened by him and he was continuously invading their personal space with his growling and "hook hand". When it was time to leave, he went into total meltdown, he ran away from me, kicked the fence repaeatedly, and then took off for the van that was parked on the street. By the time I caught up to him, he had set off the alarm on the van and was kicking the side of it. Once in the van he was kicking and banging on window, furious that we were leaving. He threw his shoes at me as well. Still furious at home. He slammed things, splashed bath water everywhere, and went to bed mad at the world. So husband and I talked about it and he is of the opinion that it is just too over stimulating and we should bag it for this year. I am in partial agreement with husband but the first practice was better and difficult child, while having little interest in baseball, loves the idea of a team uniform and being part of something. The people there are very nice and accepting and as you know, this is not always the case with difficult children. However, on the flip side, the wide open fields, parking areas, and large groups of people make it very hard to contain a meltdown safely. Why do I want to endure this twice a week? He is involved in tae kwon do and this goes significantly better than the baseball experiences but due to his behaviors, his opportunities to socialize with other kids is limited and I would like to provide him more chances to do so. So here's my dilema. The first game is Saturday. What would you do? Thanks for the input, Christy [/QUOTE]
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