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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 151130" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think one of the things we forget, as parents of difficult children, is that not everything is a good fit for every kid.</p><p> </p><p>For many of our kids, TKD offers structure, socialization, and many other things they need. For my difficult child, it was license to whale away on his sister (who was in it for 6 mos before we let him start and totally REFUSED to hit him because she didn't want to hurt him. And she could have.</p><p> </p><p>For many of our kids, cubscouts is a great thing, more organized, male role models, etc... My difficult child rolled around on the ground (in kindergarten) telling the leader they would not turn him into a mindless automaton. This was how he spoke, NOT from a book or movie. We spoke with the leader and offered to remove him - the leader was totally flabbergasted (and had to look up what automaton meant). It just was NOT a good fit.</p><p> </p><p>Yet there is a group that comes through town every summer and puts on a play - casts on Mon, performances on Sat. difficult child was AMAZING - even at his MOST violent he was Shere Khan from Jungle book and they CALLED us to see if he could be the Sheriff of Nottingham because he had done so well the week before (we used to get 2 groups from Missoula Childrens Theater - back to back, each for a week, each group did a different play). He is thriving in drama (what a leap in logic, huh??) and in photography.</p><p> </p><p>He did FAR FAR worse in tball than your child did. My son organized a revolt. ALL of the kids on BOTH teams sat down and refused to play on Sat. We had a LOT of ANGRY parents who just couldn't understand HOW their child got that idea. (I slunk away there, it was really clear to me WHO organized it - and the many angry phone calls we got backed that right up!). He did very very well in soccer, and enjoyed it for several years. medications made a huge difference for him in how much he enjoyed it. He could concentrate on the adderall, so he really really enjoyed it.</p><p> </p><p>What I am saying is that each kid is different. It is a matter of trial and error, and of talking with the coaches to see what is going on and what the best course of action in. We have stopped several sports mid-season, but we ALWAYS talked to the coach first (a matter of respect) and we tried any ideas that sounded like they might help.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck finding your child's special fun thing (and hopefully it will not be mass t-ball revolts or world domination, as my difficult child thought were teh greatest things!)</p><p> </p><p>Hugs,</p><p> </p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 151130, member: 1233"] I think one of the things we forget, as parents of difficult children, is that not everything is a good fit for every kid. For many of our kids, TKD offers structure, socialization, and many other things they need. For my difficult child, it was license to whale away on his sister (who was in it for 6 mos before we let him start and totally REFUSED to hit him because she didn't want to hurt him. And she could have. For many of our kids, cubscouts is a great thing, more organized, male role models, etc... My difficult child rolled around on the ground (in kindergarten) telling the leader they would not turn him into a mindless automaton. This was how he spoke, NOT from a book or movie. We spoke with the leader and offered to remove him - the leader was totally flabbergasted (and had to look up what automaton meant). It just was NOT a good fit. Yet there is a group that comes through town every summer and puts on a play - casts on Mon, performances on Sat. difficult child was AMAZING - even at his MOST violent he was Shere Khan from Jungle book and they CALLED us to see if he could be the Sheriff of Nottingham because he had done so well the week before (we used to get 2 groups from Missoula Childrens Theater - back to back, each for a week, each group did a different play). He is thriving in drama (what a leap in logic, huh??) and in photography. He did FAR FAR worse in tball than your child did. My son organized a revolt. ALL of the kids on BOTH teams sat down and refused to play on Sat. We had a LOT of ANGRY parents who just couldn't understand HOW their child got that idea. (I slunk away there, it was really clear to me WHO organized it - and the many angry phone calls we got backed that right up!). He did very very well in soccer, and enjoyed it for several years. medications made a huge difference for him in how much he enjoyed it. He could concentrate on the adderall, so he really really enjoyed it. What I am saying is that each kid is different. It is a matter of trial and error, and of talking with the coaches to see what is going on and what the best course of action in. We have stopped several sports mid-season, but we ALWAYS talked to the coach first (a matter of respect) and we tried any ideas that sounded like they might help. Good luck finding your child's special fun thing (and hopefully it will not be mass t-ball revolts or world domination, as my difficult child thought were teh greatest things!) Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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