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Trying a new "I'm not available" tact with difficult child 1
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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 392623" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>difficult child 1 was off school all last week and (no surprise) his IBS was much better -- less stress, less anxiety = less pain.</p><p> </p><p>It was also no surprise that this morning he was feeling crummy again when he got up. I do not doubt that his pain is real. But I do believe that I may be too available for him to call to be picked up from school when he's not feeling well. So today I wanted to try an experiment to see if he can tough it out without me dropping everything to come get him.</p><p> </p><p>He's texted me 3 times this morning to complain of feeling bad, of feeling cold, and of a small scratch on his hip that he says hurts a lot. (It really does look like a very minor scratch -- he has no idea how he got it, either). But I very nicely and with much compassion told him before I took him to school that I would NOT be able to come pick him up today because I have a plumber coming between 11 and 1 and I have to be at home. I really do have a plumber coming, and although I COULD rush over to pick him up if there was an emergency, I want him to try to cope with his discomfort on his own. Maybe this seems cruel, but I think it's something we need to try. Kinda reminds me of how we would gradually let him cry himself to sleep when he was little (he was very clingy as a baby). Each night we waited five minutes longer before going in to comfort him, and eventually he was able to settle down on his own.</p><p> </p><p>We'll see what the day brings...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 392623, member: 3444"] difficult child 1 was off school all last week and (no surprise) his IBS was much better -- less stress, less anxiety = less pain. It was also no surprise that this morning he was feeling crummy again when he got up. I do not doubt that his pain is real. But I do believe that I may be too available for him to call to be picked up from school when he's not feeling well. So today I wanted to try an experiment to see if he can tough it out without me dropping everything to come get him. He's texted me 3 times this morning to complain of feeling bad, of feeling cold, and of a small scratch on his hip that he says hurts a lot. (It really does look like a very minor scratch -- he has no idea how he got it, either). But I very nicely and with much compassion told him before I took him to school that I would NOT be able to come pick him up today because I have a plumber coming between 11 and 1 and I have to be at home. I really do have a plumber coming, and although I COULD rush over to pick him up if there was an emergency, I want him to try to cope with his discomfort on his own. Maybe this seems cruel, but I think it's something we need to try. Kinda reminds me of how we would gradually let him cry himself to sleep when he was little (he was very clingy as a baby). Each night we waited five minutes longer before going in to comfort him, and eventually he was able to settle down on his own. We'll see what the day brings... [/QUOTE]
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