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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 359040" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">DF, I cannot say I'm stunned @ therapist's suggestion (have heard many too many outrageous comments from tdocs); I'm truly disappointed that yet another therapist is taken in by the "reward" system. Another therapist doesn't see outside of difficult child to include the entire family. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">A good therapist will be working on difficult child's hate issues - working on getting along with others even if there is "hatred". Happens in the real world & if difficult child hates you it's a good life lesson. There is no way I would reward difficult child (nor therapist, for that matter) by honoring that comment & buying a horse. AND I would be there for equine therapy whether it's a week for difficult child or not. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">You are not the one who's not playing by society's rules. You are being a responsible parent. It's time difficult child got a clue. I believe it was this past Christmas I just lost it with the tweedles & wanted little to do with them. To the point of not seeing them at their treatment settings. For the first time in a long time, I put my feelings first. Guess what? It's amazing what a child can learn when they've truly hurt another to the point of being "shut out" for a period of time. I took it the extreme because it was necessary.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Time for difficult child to start earning her way in your home. Time to cut off the free ride (so to speak). This is also an opportunity for difficult child to learn the true meaning if not of family, of the cost of living. kt is learning the same & is working her little behind off for her 6 ciggies a day. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">by the way, I know you wanted to sort out your feelings - I'm here to tell you that it's okay to fell out & out angry. It's okay for difficult child to know how hurt & angry you are. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Give to get. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 359040, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]DF, I cannot say I'm stunned @ therapist's suggestion (have heard many too many outrageous comments from tdocs); I'm truly disappointed that yet another therapist is taken in by the "reward" system. Another therapist doesn't see outside of difficult child to include the entire family. A good therapist will be working on difficult child's hate issues - working on getting along with others even if there is "hatred". Happens in the real world & if difficult child hates you it's a good life lesson. There is no way I would reward difficult child (nor therapist, for that matter) by honoring that comment & buying a horse. AND I would be there for equine therapy whether it's a week for difficult child or not. You are not the one who's not playing by society's rules. You are being a responsible parent. It's time difficult child got a clue. I believe it was this past Christmas I just lost it with the tweedles & wanted little to do with them. To the point of not seeing them at their treatment settings. For the first time in a long time, I put my feelings first. Guess what? It's amazing what a child can learn when they've truly hurt another to the point of being "shut out" for a period of time. I took it the extreme because it was necessary. Time for difficult child to start earning her way in your home. Time to cut off the free ride (so to speak). This is also an opportunity for difficult child to learn the true meaning if not of family, of the cost of living. kt is learning the same & is working her little behind off for her 6 ciggies a day. :happy: by the way, I know you wanted to sort out your feelings - I'm here to tell you that it's okay to fell out & out angry. It's okay for difficult child to know how hurt & angry you are. Give to get. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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