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Trying to keep 1st gr. son from alt. school (for 2nd time) - a mother's vent for help
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 387465" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It sounds like the alternative school is not a good place for him. Regardless of his behaviors he needs an education. Is there a reason that the alt school didn't have him doing academics? Just not part of their program? </p><p> </p><p>Check out the sp ed archives for letters you can copy and put your name and difficult child's name on to request the services. There is a LOT of advice for how to best protect your child's rights and get the school to do what they are legally required to do.</p><p> </p><p>You know your child best, so if you say that Asperger's isn't a good fit then you are most likely right. You see ALL of his behaviors so you are better able to figure things out.</p><p> </p><p>It sounds like the honking is is way of handling frustration. What sensory things can he do in the classroom to deal with this without being so disruptive? Has he been evaluated by a private Occupational Therapist (OT) for sensory integration disorder/sensory processing disorder?</p><p> </p><p>Another person just posted a thread about how their son used some playdoh to squish when he got frustrated with his homework. She intends to keep it available when he does homework because it was very effective at helping him blow off steam and then be able to go back and complete the work with-o lots of drama/problems. Playdough may not be the thing your child needs, but something sensory to do might make a big difference. The honking is clearly sensory.</p><p> </p><p>Although it also might be a stimulant. Many of our kids have things they do when they get overstimulated. The traditional stimulant is hand flapping, but there are all kinds of stims. they don't have to be the same thing all the time. Right now the honking noise may be what he needs, but in a few weeks or months he may need to do something else. Either way, if what he is doing is a problem for other people then he needs to find something he can replace the honking with to let off steam and help him handle being overstimulated/frustrated.</p><p> </p><p>Whatever is going on, your instincts are going to be your best guide. YOU know difficult child better than anyone else. If your instincts say that something is wrong then you need to follow them. Even if your mind says it is ridiculous. Many of us say that the times we made the biggest mistakes with our children were times wehn we ignored our instincts. Even if you don't have a reason that you can articulate, you have that feeling that something is right for him or wrong for him. Follow that instinct. The "experts" are expert in their field of study. These docs/therapists/teachers/etc... spend as little as 10-15 minutes every few months with our kids while we spend hours and hours with our kids. So we are the "experts" on our children and we need to fight to follow our instincts.</p><p> </p><p>{{{{{hugs}}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 387465, member: 1233"] It sounds like the alternative school is not a good place for him. Regardless of his behaviors he needs an education. Is there a reason that the alt school didn't have him doing academics? Just not part of their program? Check out the sp ed archives for letters you can copy and put your name and difficult child's name on to request the services. There is a LOT of advice for how to best protect your child's rights and get the school to do what they are legally required to do. You know your child best, so if you say that Asperger's isn't a good fit then you are most likely right. You see ALL of his behaviors so you are better able to figure things out. It sounds like the honking is is way of handling frustration. What sensory things can he do in the classroom to deal with this without being so disruptive? Has he been evaluated by a private Occupational Therapist (OT) for sensory integration disorder/sensory processing disorder? Another person just posted a thread about how their son used some playdoh to squish when he got frustrated with his homework. She intends to keep it available when he does homework because it was very effective at helping him blow off steam and then be able to go back and complete the work with-o lots of drama/problems. Playdough may not be the thing your child needs, but something sensory to do might make a big difference. The honking is clearly sensory. Although it also might be a stimulant. Many of our kids have things they do when they get overstimulated. The traditional stimulant is hand flapping, but there are all kinds of stims. they don't have to be the same thing all the time. Right now the honking noise may be what he needs, but in a few weeks or months he may need to do something else. Either way, if what he is doing is a problem for other people then he needs to find something he can replace the honking with to let off steam and help him handle being overstimulated/frustrated. Whatever is going on, your instincts are going to be your best guide. YOU know difficult child better than anyone else. If your instincts say that something is wrong then you need to follow them. Even if your mind says it is ridiculous. Many of us say that the times we made the biggest mistakes with our children were times wehn we ignored our instincts. Even if you don't have a reason that you can articulate, you have that feeling that something is right for him or wrong for him. Follow that instinct. The "experts" are expert in their field of study. These docs/therapists/teachers/etc... spend as little as 10-15 minutes every few months with our kids while we spend hours and hours with our kids. So we are the "experts" on our children and we need to fight to follow our instincts. {{{{{hugs}}}}} [/QUOTE]
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