Hi. I happened to be up late. I am so sorry what all of you are going through.
Because of COVID there are no in person Al Anon meetings here and I wouldn't go to one if there were. I don't think indoor groups are safe. But there are Zoom groups. I go to one. I found my meeting by putting my state and Al Anon Zoom Meetings into my search engine. It's very helpful to me. Your son can do online AA too.
Therapy is virtual here as well. A lot of things are shut down. If you value your marriage it may be good to call a psychologist or therapist and do virtual counseling with your husband. Sadly sometimes we do need to choose between loved ones. You may need to get a therapist just for you in order to sort out what is best for you. It is hard to do it alone. I never could have.
I send prayers and love. Keep posting. We are always here and we care
