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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 396658" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>UPDATE:</p><p> </p><p>Well, you are all gonna love this...</p><p> </p><p>difficult child continued with her "fat-bashing"...and really just had a smart remark to say about anyone and everyone. One day after listening to an entire string of her nasty insulting remarks (and hearing her explain that she herself is such a tiny, pretty little thing) I came back at her and told her she needed to watch her comments. After all, she wouldn't appreciate it if somebody commented about her "big teeth".</p><p> </p><p>And I left it at that.</p><p> </p><p>Fast-forward to today - several weeks after my "big teeth" remark...</p><p> </p><p>difficult child had an appointment with the therapist. And what does she want to discuss with the therapist? </p><p> </p><p>Yup. </p><p> </p><p>She's upset that her mother has been very mean and insulting toward her and made fun of her teeth. difficult child feels this is completely cruel and unfair behavior.</p><p> </p><p>Not knowing the rest of the story, the therapist was eager to resolve this issue...</p><p> </p><p>And when the whole story came out - it was clear to the therapist that difficult child has no clue that others have any feelings whatsoever. difficult child did not understand the concept of "thinking before you speak" and/or "keeping negative comments to oneself" or even apologizing for hurtful remarks. difficult child just did. not. get. it.</p><p> </p><p>And yet my "big teeth" example had become so enormous in difficult child's mind that she was convinced I was being "abusive" towards her in all my dealings and had been for the past several years.</p><p> </p><p>So I don't think this is resolved by a long shot....</p><p> </p><p>But at least it has become very clear to the therapist that difficult child completely lacks a sense of empathy or even the sense that others have rights and feelings.</p><p> </p><p>So - I guess it is progress.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 396658, member: 6546"] UPDATE: Well, you are all gonna love this... difficult child continued with her "fat-bashing"...and really just had a smart remark to say about anyone and everyone. One day after listening to an entire string of her nasty insulting remarks (and hearing her explain that she herself is such a tiny, pretty little thing) I came back at her and told her she needed to watch her comments. After all, she wouldn't appreciate it if somebody commented about her "big teeth". And I left it at that. Fast-forward to today - several weeks after my "big teeth" remark... difficult child had an appointment with the therapist. And what does she want to discuss with the therapist? Yup. She's upset that her mother has been very mean and insulting toward her and made fun of her teeth. difficult child feels this is completely cruel and unfair behavior. Not knowing the rest of the story, the therapist was eager to resolve this issue... And when the whole story came out - it was clear to the therapist that difficult child has no clue that others have any feelings whatsoever. difficult child did not understand the concept of "thinking before you speak" and/or "keeping negative comments to oneself" or even apologizing for hurtful remarks. difficult child just did. not. get. it. And yet my "big teeth" example had become so enormous in difficult child's mind that she was convinced I was being "abusive" towards her in all my dealings and had been for the past several years. So I don't think this is resolved by a long shot.... But at least it has become very clear to the therapist that difficult child completely lacks a sense of empathy or even the sense that others have rights and feelings. So - I guess it is progress. [/QUOTE]
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