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Trying to start difficult child on medications tonight for first time...
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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 300322" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>My concern is by not revealing the true reason she is taking the medication, she will eventually find out and it will backfire on you. Then, maybe in the future, if this medication isn't helpful, and you want to try something else, she's going to be grilling you like a cheeseburger as to the change and will not comply. </p><p> </p><p>Son has been taking Risperdal since he was eight. He was very angry, irritable, and melted down often. We had tried various medications to that point, and Risperdal was the only medication that calmed him down. He was started on the same dosage as your difficult child, and it has increased over the years. He now takes 2.0 a day. Since hitting puberty, and finding a new psychiatrist, he is now on two other medications since he had become violent and physical against me despite the Risperdal. The psychiatrist wanted to try and wean him off Risperdal and it was a disaster. He just about ruined a family celebration with his antics. When I connected the dots, and rushed him home and gave him his dose of Risperdal and the effect was immediate. So, I know that he needs the Risperdal along with the two other medications. </p><p> </p><p>Please know that it doesn't "cure" behavior, and the difficult child issues are still very much present, but at least it gave me some hope. It can offer a window to helping to address some of the behaviors. That being said, I do know that Risperdal is not effective for all difficult children and some here have had to suffer some unpleasant side-effects, such as nightmares and weight gain. So, try not to pin all your hopes on it. If it works, great. If it doesn't, have a plan B. </p><p> </p><p>I know that crossing the line to give medication a try is a difficult decision for many parents. It was for me. Yet, I just knew our family could not continue as it was and home life was so out of control and stressful (sometimes it still gets that way). My rule always is that the medication MUST improve the quality of my child's life. </p><p> </p><p>Before medications, Son had a very hard time getting along with other kids. He would explode over the smallest things and playmates would look at him as if he were from another planet. Mind you, Son is still a bit of an odd duck, but at least other kids seek him out now and can tolerate him most of the time. </p><p> </p><p>As far a taking the medications, Son fights it about 75% of the time. He yells and sometimes grumbles. He's even sneered that he hates me right before he pops them in his mouth. I don't make a big deal, I'm like, "uh huh, whatever". Often he will tell me he doesn't need them. I don't argue it simply because there is no explanation that would satisfy him. Those times when he threatens me with noncompliance, I make it clear I will confiscate EVERYTHING he holds near and dear. That would be video games, phone, tv, friends, bike, and favorite (re:cool), shoes and items of clothing. I mean it and he knows it. So, he backs down. </p><p> </p><p>I hope that your strategy works. Let us know how it goes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 300322, member: 831"] My concern is by not revealing the true reason she is taking the medication, she will eventually find out and it will backfire on you. Then, maybe in the future, if this medication isn't helpful, and you want to try something else, she's going to be grilling you like a cheeseburger as to the change and will not comply. Son has been taking Risperdal since he was eight. He was very angry, irritable, and melted down often. We had tried various medications to that point, and Risperdal was the only medication that calmed him down. He was started on the same dosage as your difficult child, and it has increased over the years. He now takes 2.0 a day. Since hitting puberty, and finding a new psychiatrist, he is now on two other medications since he had become violent and physical against me despite the Risperdal. The psychiatrist wanted to try and wean him off Risperdal and it was a disaster. He just about ruined a family celebration with his antics. When I connected the dots, and rushed him home and gave him his dose of Risperdal and the effect was immediate. So, I know that he needs the Risperdal along with the two other medications. Please know that it doesn't "cure" behavior, and the difficult child issues are still very much present, but at least it gave me some hope. It can offer a window to helping to address some of the behaviors. That being said, I do know that Risperdal is not effective for all difficult children and some here have had to suffer some unpleasant side-effects, such as nightmares and weight gain. So, try not to pin all your hopes on it. If it works, great. If it doesn't, have a plan B. I know that crossing the line to give medication a try is a difficult decision for many parents. It was for me. Yet, I just knew our family could not continue as it was and home life was so out of control and stressful (sometimes it still gets that way). My rule always is that the medication MUST improve the quality of my child's life. Before medications, Son had a very hard time getting along with other kids. He would explode over the smallest things and playmates would look at him as if he were from another planet. Mind you, Son is still a bit of an odd duck, but at least other kids seek him out now and can tolerate him most of the time. As far a taking the medications, Son fights it about 75% of the time. He yells and sometimes grumbles. He's even sneered that he hates me right before he pops them in his mouth. I don't make a big deal, I'm like, "uh huh, whatever". Often he will tell me he doesn't need them. I don't argue it simply because there is no explanation that would satisfy him. Those times when he threatens me with noncompliance, I make it clear I will confiscate EVERYTHING he holds near and dear. That would be video games, phone, tv, friends, bike, and favorite (re:cool), shoes and items of clothing. I mean it and he knows it. So, he backs down. I hope that your strategy works. Let us know how it goes. [/QUOTE]
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