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<blockquote data-quote="Stella" data-source="post: 301075" data-attributes="member: 6837"><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Grace upon Grace- yes I have told the whole team about the candle incident. They are very aware of all of her behaviours and I agree her lack of empathy can be very alarming. However she does have the ability to show empathy at times so its not non-existent. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><em><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">If so, maybe if the medication gets her to a "reasonable and rational" point, the therapist can help</span></span></em></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Klmo thats exactly what I am trying to do. I am hoping that if the medications work she will get to a point where she will become a bit more rational and open to the therapy as at the moment she is very non compliant with everyone on her team. As regards me seeing a therapist I have been seeing one every week for the last 2 years and I find it is a great outlet to vent. I find I come up with some of my best ideas in the midsts of talking. I wouldnt have kept sane this long without being able to talk, not just to my counsellor but to my few close friends who know the whole story. Talking about it really is what keeps me sane!</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Idohope your difficult child sounds very like mine and if this strategy doesnt work then the only other thing I can think of is an in-patient stay where they insist she take her medications. The only problem with that is there here in Ireland there are only 3 child psychiatric hospitals in the whole country and there are very few beds and very long waiting lists. Its a farce! Last year I requested an in-patient stay for her but I was basically told there was no hope of that happening. I dont know what she has to do before they consider her bad enough for an in-patient stay!!!</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Susiestar as far as pressing charges go, I have actually called the police to my home before, explained the situation and asked them to talk to her which they did. They told me that I cannot press charges or do anything legally until she is 12 and she heard them say this. She has used this against me in the past and said you cant do anything until Im 12. I would definitely have no problems calling them when she turns 12 if she continues to trash my home.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">As far as the medication taking is going, last night she pretended to take it with an Oscar winning performance! She scrunched up her face, cried that it tasted horrible etc etc. However, I was convinced that I caught a glimpse of a smirk on her face so when she left I inspected the room only to find the tablet crushed up on the floor. I really dont know how she did it. I watched her take it!!! Anyway, I went straight outside and brought her in from playing with her friends and made her take another one in front of me and open her mouth after to prove she swallowed it. She cursed me and told me how much she hated me etc etc and that she knew what the tablets are really for. I told her well this is that the doctor has asked me to give her so I have to follow through on it and the doctor wouldnt have prescribed them if she didnt think she needed them. So, Im pretty sure she does actually know what theyre for. I feel like I cant go back on what I have said now though as that would just make matters worse. Also her psychiatrist is seeing this as a 2 week trial so if they dont work she wont have to take them for too much longer. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Because of the incident last night I am not sure if she has really taken it the other two nights. I was trying to make the whole medications scenario too confrontational and trying to play it cool as the more insistent I am the more oppositional she becomes. However after this little incident last night I have no choice now but to stand over her while she takes it and make her prove to me that she has swallowed it each time. I anticipate a huge battle tonight but I need to follow through on this if it kills me!!!</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Thank you all again for taking the time to reply to this. All your wisdom, experience and advice are invaluable. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">Stella</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stella, post: 301075, member: 6837"] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]Grace upon Grace- yes I have told the whole team about the candle incident. They are very aware of all of her behaviours and I agree her lack of empathy can be very alarming. However she does have the ability to show empathy at times so its not non-existent. [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [I][COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]If so, maybe if the medication gets her to a "reasonable and rational" point, the therapist can help[/FONT][/COLOR][/I] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]Klmo thats exactly what I am trying to do. I am hoping that if the medications work she will get to a point where she will become a bit more rational and open to the therapy as at the moment she is very non compliant with everyone on her team. As regards me seeing a therapist I have been seeing one every week for the last 2 years and I find it is a great outlet to vent. I find I come up with some of my best ideas in the midsts of talking. I wouldnt have kept sane this long without being able to talk, not just to my counsellor but to my few close friends who know the whole story. Talking about it really is what keeps me sane![/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]Idohope your difficult child sounds very like mine and if this strategy doesnt work then the only other thing I can think of is an in-patient stay where they insist she take her medications. The only problem with that is there here in Ireland there are only 3 child psychiatric hospitals in the whole country and there are very few beds and very long waiting lists. Its a farce! Last year I requested an in-patient stay for her but I was basically told there was no hope of that happening. I dont know what she has to do before they consider her bad enough for an in-patient stay!!![/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]Susiestar as far as pressing charges go, I have actually called the police to my home before, explained the situation and asked them to talk to her which they did. They told me that I cannot press charges or do anything legally until she is 12 and she heard them say this. She has used this against me in the past and said you cant do anything until Im 12. I would definitely have no problems calling them when she turns 12 if she continues to trash my home.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]As far as the medication taking is going, last night she pretended to take it with an Oscar winning performance! She scrunched up her face, cried that it tasted horrible etc etc. However, I was convinced that I caught a glimpse of a smirk on her face so when she left I inspected the room only to find the tablet crushed up on the floor. I really dont know how she did it. I watched her take it!!! Anyway, I went straight outside and brought her in from playing with her friends and made her take another one in front of me and open her mouth after to prove she swallowed it. She cursed me and told me how much she hated me etc etc and that she knew what the tablets are really for. I told her well this is that the doctor has asked me to give her so I have to follow through on it and the doctor wouldnt have prescribed them if she didnt think she needed them. So, Im pretty sure she does actually know what theyre for. I feel like I cant go back on what I have said now though as that would just make matters worse. Also her psychiatrist is seeing this as a 2 week trial so if they dont work she wont have to take them for too much longer. [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana] [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]Because of the incident last night I am not sure if she has really taken it the other two nights. I was trying to make the whole medications scenario too confrontational and trying to play it cool as the more insistent I am the more oppositional she becomes. However after this little incident last night I have no choice now but to stand over her while she takes it and make her prove to me that she has swallowed it each time. I anticipate a huge battle tonight but I need to follow through on this if it kills me!!![/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]Thank you all again for taking the time to reply to this. All your wisdom, experience and advice are invaluable. [/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]Stella[/FONT][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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