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<blockquote data-quote="Jabberwockey" data-source="post: 660365" data-attributes="member: 18238"><p>Honestly, this could be a godsend. He will no longer be homeless, without medical and mental health attention, he will have three hots and a cot. He will have the opportunity IF HE CHOSES TO TAKE IT to start putting his life back together. If you wouldn't give him money while he was on the streets, don't do so while he is incarcerated. He will only buy either junk food or cigarettes (possibly to trade for drugs) or he will buy phone minutes so he can call you to tug at your heart strings for more money. </p><p></p><p>I just came back from R&O's (new intakes) and one of the things I remind them of is that we cant force them to change any more than they can force us to change. This is for both OG and Copa, there is NO magic word, phrase, or sentence that will make them understand something that they don't want to understand. Keep it simple, minimal, and in text format if at all possible. Lil can be very strong in resisting our son UNTIL she hears his voice. They are counting on this so don't give them the option. OG, for the record, MANY prisons now allow messages to be sent from the kiosk to your phone for a small fee per message. I will double check to see if you can respond or not but the company that does this covers the prisons in several states so its a good possibility that they have them where you are as well, even if its a different company.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jabberwockey, post: 660365, member: 18238"] Honestly, this could be a godsend. He will no longer be homeless, without medical and mental health attention, he will have three hots and a cot. He will have the opportunity IF HE CHOSES TO TAKE IT to start putting his life back together. If you wouldn't give him money while he was on the streets, don't do so while he is incarcerated. He will only buy either junk food or cigarettes (possibly to trade for drugs) or he will buy phone minutes so he can call you to tug at your heart strings for more money. I just came back from R&O's (new intakes) and one of the things I remind them of is that we cant force them to change any more than they can force us to change. This is for both OG and Copa, there is NO magic word, phrase, or sentence that will make them understand something that they don't want to understand. Keep it simple, minimal, and in text format if at all possible. Lil can be very strong in resisting our son UNTIL she hears his voice. They are counting on this so don't give them the option. OG, for the record, MANY prisons now allow messages to be sent from the kiosk to your phone for a small fee per message. I will double check to see if you can respond or not but the company that does this covers the prisons in several states so its a good possibility that they have them where you are as well, even if its a different company. [/QUOTE]
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