I have one daughter who won't talk to us because we cut off the money supply and it was very painful at first. I suggest joining Facebooks Estranged Parents sites and/or joing a Zoom Families Anonymous Meeting (you can find them all on then internet) and definitely a therapist to help you help yourself. I see a therapist and go to a 12 Step group on Zom and am feeling good. This sad estrangement dynamic is a pandemic now, with all the internet junk about "toxic, narcissist parents" out there. Family is not what it used to be.
Going after estranged kids is more apt to tick them off than bring them back (see the MANY estranged parents FB sites). Unfortunately the sadness of estrangement is difficult and nothing magical changes them but you have all the power to change yourself and feel whole again. I recommend reading everything you can on the topic. Most estrangements are very similar, especially their made up memories of how you raised them. The fact that your daughter still communicates at all is a plus. Some do not.
I am sorry you are on this path and that I can't tell you what to do to get her to return. I know that's what you want to hear. You have probably done everything there is to do t.o repair the relationship. There are only finite things you can do.
Love and hugs.
