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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 516760" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Nsh, first welcome. I'm sorry for all that your family is going through. </p><p></p><p>Can you fill us in on some of the details surrounding your daughter's rape, school setting and any type of therapy or medications that she's received? Has she met with anyone in regards to the rape, such as a victims advocate? Has the rapist been found, tried and or locked up? Since your daughter has been diagnosed with add, is she working with staff at school for any extra services, how is her performance in school? Did she change her crowd of friends? </p><p></p><p>My now 22 y/o daughter was kidnapped and sexually assaulted at age 15. She met the 29 y/o on line and prior to the assault she thought she was pretty clever I'm sure, flirting with this older guy, etc. Everything happened very fast and we found out immediately the day it all happened and the police were involved, etc. My daughter needed counseling following the assault and she went through a time of stealing from us, stupid things, but also expensive things. Her therapist said stealing is a very big subconscious reaction to any kind of assault as a means to gain control of their world around them. She started hanging with losers, drinking, smoking, etc. We did kick her out and at other times she chose to leave on her own and couch surf at friends homes. And then she grew up. Last year she finally went to see a therapist on her own to deal with the sexual assault, her role in the events that happened and how her age and maturity level made it nearly impossible for her to exhibit any sensible thoughts or process the full ramifications of her choices. It's been a very big learning experience for her...and us as well. She has shared with us a lot. Also, for the first time since the incident, she was able to read the police report, her victims statement, and other court docs. </p><p></p><p>I think it's really important to draw on every possible resource you have available, whether through her school or friends or your doctors, to try and get her on track. She will kick and scream eve step of the way, but you just stick to it. Did the court offer any type of resources to help you? Aren't there programs within the department of children and families that may be able to help? </p><p></p><p>Your heartbreak and exhaustion come through in your post. I'm so sorry, sending hugs and strength.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 516760, member: 2211"] Nsh, first welcome. I'm sorry for all that your family is going through. Can you fill us in on some of the details surrounding your daughter's rape, school setting and any type of therapy or medications that she's received? Has she met with anyone in regards to the rape, such as a victims advocate? Has the rapist been found, tried and or locked up? Since your daughter has been diagnosed with add, is she working with staff at school for any extra services, how is her performance in school? Did she change her crowd of friends? My now 22 y/o daughter was kidnapped and sexually assaulted at age 15. She met the 29 y/o on line and prior to the assault she thought she was pretty clever I'm sure, flirting with this older guy, etc. Everything happened very fast and we found out immediately the day it all happened and the police were involved, etc. My daughter needed counseling following the assault and she went through a time of stealing from us, stupid things, but also expensive things. Her therapist said stealing is a very big subconscious reaction to any kind of assault as a means to gain control of their world around them. She started hanging with losers, drinking, smoking, etc. We did kick her out and at other times she chose to leave on her own and couch surf at friends homes. And then she grew up. Last year she finally went to see a therapist on her own to deal with the sexual assault, her role in the events that happened and how her age and maturity level made it nearly impossible for her to exhibit any sensible thoughts or process the full ramifications of her choices. It's been a very big learning experience for her...and us as well. She has shared with us a lot. Also, for the first time since the incident, she was able to read the police report, her victims statement, and other court docs. I think it's really important to draw on every possible resource you have available, whether through her school or friends or your doctors, to try and get her on track. She will kick and scream eve step of the way, but you just stick to it. Did the court offer any type of resources to help you? Aren't there programs within the department of children and families that may be able to help? Your heartbreak and exhaustion come through in your post. I'm so sorry, sending hugs and strength. [/QUOTE]
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