I am VERY glad that your daughter is okay now.
Your post made me smile Cedar. I thought to myself, 'well, Cedar is not judging herself so harshly now so she can see her daughter differently without that judgement............. with that new found compassion for herself, she can have compassion for her daughter's lifestyle choices. And, Cedar now has boundaries to protect herself and husband has to learn a whole new landscape to catch up with her changes.' I think his response is priceless................ and normal too. He has to figure out a new way to be with his new Cedar.
Well, fasten your seat belts guys, it may be a little bumpy for awhile.
We humans will find oddball things to express our angers about rather then be direct about it all.............sounds like the shortcakes did the trick!
I see the changes mostly in my granddaughter's response to me over the last few months. Last night my SO's youngest son came for dinner and my granddaughter was telling him stories of how angry I have gotten at her. She was saying it so that the stories were funny and we all laughed, but I know the real history and as I was changing and setting boundaries and saying no and telling her she had to figure it out for herself, she wasn't at all pleased. It was rough going for a little while but she adapted. It was WAY easier then with my daughter, yikes.
What is so wonderful is that as I become more REAL and speak my truth and express myself, what happens is intimacy grows, there's more fun, it's all light and airy and filled with space...........the resentments are gone so gratitude can move in................compassion for oneself, love for oneself emerges and everything looks a lot better all around. I feel more loved and more loving.
Yup, life is good.
