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Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wished Their Adoptive Parents Knew
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 227263" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>It talks in the book about adoption making a child "special needs." I asked my 12 year old about that, because I wasn't sure, and she nodded firmly. I said, "Really?" She nodded again, hard. The book also had really good advice about how to raise and handle adoption issues, including being very open about adoption and not being afraid to say, "You have your birthmother's eyes." I tell my daughter how much she looks like her birthmother a lot and it makes her smile and feel connected. She loves us--I know that--she put both of us down as her heroes in her MySpace, but this need to k now her birthmother is not related to how she feels about us. My oldest daughter has a stronger feeling of self right now than the younger one--she's been through so much--but she needs to see the face of her birthmother one day and she needs to meet her...in order to feel complete. Again, it has NOTHING to do with her relationship with me and her father. She loves us, we adore her in every way. It's just something these kids need to know, as human beings, to feel complete. </p><p>I think all adoptees think a lot about it, even if they keep it inside. No matter how much they love us, and they DO love us, they need to know why they were given away and only one person can tell them that. And they also want to know where they got their pretty eyes and their musical ability <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 227263, member: 1550"] It talks in the book about adoption making a child "special needs." I asked my 12 year old about that, because I wasn't sure, and she nodded firmly. I said, "Really?" She nodded again, hard. The book also had really good advice about how to raise and handle adoption issues, including being very open about adoption and not being afraid to say, "You have your birthmother's eyes." I tell my daughter how much she looks like her birthmother a lot and it makes her smile and feel connected. She loves us--I know that--she put both of us down as her heroes in her MySpace, but this need to k now her birthmother is not related to how she feels about us. My oldest daughter has a stronger feeling of self right now than the younger one--she's been through so much--but she needs to see the face of her birthmother one day and she needs to meet her...in order to feel complete. Again, it has NOTHING to do with her relationship with me and her father. She loves us, we adore her in every way. It's just something these kids need to know, as human beings, to feel complete. I think all adoptees think a lot about it, even if they keep it inside. No matter how much they love us, and they DO love us, they need to know why they were given away and only one person can tell them that. And they also want to know where they got their pretty eyes and their musical ability ;) [/QUOTE]
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