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<blockquote data-quote="HMBgal" data-source="post: 487365" data-attributes="member: 13260"><p>Thanks for your helpful responses. Yes, Explosive Child follower, as much as possible. I've read the Explosive Child for younger children (a sticky on this board, I think). </p><p></p><p>Today was marginally better, although I got punched in the chest pretty hard and bit hard, too. It just hurts my feelings, although I try and separate the behavior from the child: I pretend that I'm at work and just got socked by a kid. Everything was fine; everyone was bending over backwards to be calm, work the behavior plan, etc. But, when it was time to leave the coffee shop where we were having quite a nice time, BAM. Anger, aggression, my daughter now has two big bruises where he's bit her. Then like a lightning strike, he's fine, but I'm done for the day, daughter is shaking, and poor little sister (easy child 3 year old) is flummoxed by the sudden changes. Up til then, difficult child was playing so sweetly with her. Just another day in the life, I guess.</p><p></p><p>But in the end, good things happened and I'm going to focus on that. He is verbalizing some good things, too. The new aide, who is also temporary because she's graduating from her school as a fully fledged teacher, is a delightful young woman, also, and when I picked him up from school today, he was calm, happy, chatty, and played nicely with his sister while the classroom teacher and I talked.</p><p></p><p>The teacher keeps telling us to push for the Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation, which Kaiser is refusing to do. He really had bad time in music yesterday, but it was his first time, because that always takes place after recess, which is when he has to leave. He had a hard time crossing midline (which he can do because I've tested him with the simple tests that I do when I'm assessing kids for adapted PE qualification) with a patty-cake rhythm game. With the aide, he did make it all week until noon, so that is huge. Next week, he goes from 8:30-2:40 two days, and til 1:10 three days. I'm a little nervous about that; that's a pretty long day for a five year old.</p><p></p><p>Funny that Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) was mentioned. I did a graduate paper on it and it is a somewhat controversial subject in that some people don't believe it exists, and they will quote studies that show that these kids don't usually get any more coordinated with therapy anyway. This was in 2001 and I had to use mostly European sources, so I'm guessing that I need to do some more research to see what's been done more recently. His gross motor is really good: rides a bike without training wheels, uses regular inline skates, scooters, climbs like a monkey, etc. It's the fine motor: forming his letters and cutting. No tactile sensitivities that I can see when using squishy, wet stuff, although most of his art projects involve coloring, cutting, and drawing, which are definite areas of need for him. We have fat pencils, grips, etc. but that doesn't address the sensory piece. Right now, he's allowed to move when he needs to, will go outside with aide for a couple of minutes to calm down (something about cleaning up just drives him up a wall), and is allowed fidgets.</p><p></p><p>Early development: always more intense, but hit developmental milestones on or ahead. Good sleeper, good eater, aggressive and problems controlling himself in playgroups and at parties and gatherings since he was old enough to walk. We never felt that we could let him out of our sight for a second, and still don't. Absolutely hell-bent in doing what he wants and will relentlessly go after anything of interest. Babyproofing was ridiculous and largely ineffective because he was so damn clever in outsmarting the locks, doorknobs, outlet covers, etc. </p><p></p><p>He has bombed out of two pre-schools, has had observations done, gone through a 6 week intensive therapeutic playgroup, 8 hours one-on-one with a child psychologist, and 90 minutes with a child psychiatrist (hence the drugs). Possible ADHD is all he mentioned, and because of his age, that's about all we've got.</p><p></p><p>I do think he's having a growth spurt because he's really eating a lot, and he's had a cold and/or asthma since school started, with only a week here and there where he is completely free of symptoms. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes, I just feel like I'm too old for this S---, ya know? This is round 2 for me and it's almost harder than round 1 (my own kids) was. I'm tired; going to bed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HMBgal, post: 487365, member: 13260"] Thanks for your helpful responses. Yes, Explosive Child follower, as much as possible. I've read the Explosive Child for younger children (a sticky on this board, I think). Today was marginally better, although I got punched in the chest pretty hard and bit hard, too. It just hurts my feelings, although I try and separate the behavior from the child: I pretend that I'm at work and just got socked by a kid. Everything was fine; everyone was bending over backwards to be calm, work the behavior plan, etc. But, when it was time to leave the coffee shop where we were having quite a nice time, BAM. Anger, aggression, my daughter now has two big bruises where he's bit her. Then like a lightning strike, he's fine, but I'm done for the day, daughter is shaking, and poor little sister (easy child 3 year old) is flummoxed by the sudden changes. Up til then, difficult child was playing so sweetly with her. Just another day in the life, I guess. But in the end, good things happened and I'm going to focus on that. He is verbalizing some good things, too. The new aide, who is also temporary because she's graduating from her school as a fully fledged teacher, is a delightful young woman, also, and when I picked him up from school today, he was calm, happy, chatty, and played nicely with his sister while the classroom teacher and I talked. The teacher keeps telling us to push for the Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation, which Kaiser is refusing to do. He really had bad time in music yesterday, but it was his first time, because that always takes place after recess, which is when he has to leave. He had a hard time crossing midline (which he can do because I've tested him with the simple tests that I do when I'm assessing kids for adapted PE qualification) with a patty-cake rhythm game. With the aide, he did make it all week until noon, so that is huge. Next week, he goes from 8:30-2:40 two days, and til 1:10 three days. I'm a little nervous about that; that's a pretty long day for a five year old. Funny that Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) was mentioned. I did a graduate paper on it and it is a somewhat controversial subject in that some people don't believe it exists, and they will quote studies that show that these kids don't usually get any more coordinated with therapy anyway. This was in 2001 and I had to use mostly European sources, so I'm guessing that I need to do some more research to see what's been done more recently. His gross motor is really good: rides a bike without training wheels, uses regular inline skates, scooters, climbs like a monkey, etc. It's the fine motor: forming his letters and cutting. No tactile sensitivities that I can see when using squishy, wet stuff, although most of his art projects involve coloring, cutting, and drawing, which are definite areas of need for him. We have fat pencils, grips, etc. but that doesn't address the sensory piece. Right now, he's allowed to move when he needs to, will go outside with aide for a couple of minutes to calm down (something about cleaning up just drives him up a wall), and is allowed fidgets. Early development: always more intense, but hit developmental milestones on or ahead. Good sleeper, good eater, aggressive and problems controlling himself in playgroups and at parties and gatherings since he was old enough to walk. We never felt that we could let him out of our sight for a second, and still don't. Absolutely hell-bent in doing what he wants and will relentlessly go after anything of interest. Babyproofing was ridiculous and largely ineffective because he was so damn clever in outsmarting the locks, doorknobs, outlet covers, etc. He has bombed out of two pre-schools, has had observations done, gone through a 6 week intensive therapeutic playgroup, 8 hours one-on-one with a child psychologist, and 90 minutes with a child psychiatrist (hence the drugs). Possible ADHD is all he mentioned, and because of his age, that's about all we've got. I do think he's having a growth spurt because he's really eating a lot, and he's had a cold and/or asthma since school started, with only a week here and there where he is completely free of symptoms. Sometimes, I just feel like I'm too old for this S---, ya know? This is round 2 for me and it's almost harder than round 1 (my own kids) was. I'm tired; going to bed. [/QUOTE]
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