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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 581656" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>OK... mine aren't twins, not even same gender, but... I do have two teenagers, both in HS, one being difficult child and the other not so much so.</p><p></p><p>Doing stuff to annoy? BOTH do it.</p><p>Pushing way WAY too far? 90% difficult child.</p><p>Pushing way WAY too far by doing stuff that really IS annoying like tapping? 200% difficult child.</p><p>For my difficult child, that behavior = anxiety.</p><p>No, he doesn't TELL us he's getting in knots inside. But he does this stuff on an escalating basis once anxiety sets in.</p><p>"Mom, how do YOU know! I'm not worried about anything. Really!"</p><p>Really?</p><p></p><p>You're at work. Something inside of difficult child becomes anxious. He'd rather you were there. You aren't. So... he ramps up.</p><p></p><p>Missing skill? Could be anxiety management. Or more accurately, "acceptable" anxiety management. It could explain scenarios 2 & 3, but not 1. Do you have a stress-ball he can squeeze while waiting his turn for reading? Or silly putty? The at-home-without-mom scenario probably needs some basket-b work... with each of them. </p><p></p><p>We solved scenario 1 the easy way. Separate bathrooms.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 581656, member: 11791"] OK... mine aren't twins, not even same gender, but... I do have two teenagers, both in HS, one being difficult child and the other not so much so. Doing stuff to annoy? BOTH do it. Pushing way WAY too far? 90% difficult child. Pushing way WAY too far by doing stuff that really IS annoying like tapping? 200% difficult child. For my difficult child, that behavior = anxiety. No, he doesn't TELL us he's getting in knots inside. But he does this stuff on an escalating basis once anxiety sets in. "Mom, how do YOU know! I'm not worried about anything. Really!" Really? You're at work. Something inside of difficult child becomes anxious. He'd rather you were there. You aren't. So... he ramps up. Missing skill? Could be anxiety management. Or more accurately, "acceptable" anxiety management. It could explain scenarios 2 & 3, but not 1. Do you have a stress-ball he can squeeze while waiting his turn for reading? Or silly putty? The at-home-without-mom scenario probably needs some basket-b work... with each of them. We solved scenario 1 the easy way. Separate bathrooms. [/QUOTE]
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