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Ugh. Well this is better than what I thought might happen but not by much
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<blockquote data-quote="pigless in VA" data-source="post: 690112" data-attributes="member: 11832"><p>The book is <u>Tuesdays with Morrie.</u> It's a great book. My former father in law is no Morrie. In fact the man has not said more than three words to me in decades. I was prepared to reject his offer of continuing the Sunday lunches on the basis that I didn't think they would even be important to him. I think I am wrong. I think simply because he does not have conversations doesn't mean that he doesn't enjoy seeing his only grandchildren. I think we continue to meet with him, continue to have short visits, continue to talk <em>at</em> him instead of with him, because we are all he has left in the world. And because Candy and Ferb are his connection to his family, to those who are no longer with us. </p><p></p><p>Cedar, I'm glad my little story touched something in you. My former father in law is the <em>last </em>person I would ever expect to be grateful for a friend. He has been so remote, unreachable, hateful and judgmental. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Maybe it took him losing his two sons to suicide to shock him into the reality of life and loss. He did not know how to connect with his sons. He yelled at them. He derided them. He judged them. </p><p></p><p>I watched him for years snap at people who visited his house. No one wanted to sit and chat with him. Sunday was different. Sunday he was grateful for every person who came to see him. He was teary but functioning. He appreciated the support of his friends and relatives.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pigless in VA, post: 690112, member: 11832"] The book is [U]Tuesdays with Morrie.[/U] It's a great book. My former father in law is no Morrie. In fact the man has not said more than three words to me in decades. I was prepared to reject his offer of continuing the Sunday lunches on the basis that I didn't think they would even be important to him. I think I am wrong. I think simply because he does not have conversations doesn't mean that he doesn't enjoy seeing his only grandchildren. I think we continue to meet with him, continue to have short visits, continue to talk [I]at[/I] him instead of with him, because we are all he has left in the world. And because Candy and Ferb are his connection to his family, to those who are no longer with us. Cedar, I'm glad my little story touched something in you. My former father in law is the [I]last [/I]person I would ever expect to be grateful for a friend. He has been so remote, unreachable, hateful and judgmental. Maybe it took him losing his two sons to suicide to shock him into the reality of life and loss. He did not know how to connect with his sons. He yelled at them. He derided them. He judged them. I watched him for years snap at people who visited his house. No one wanted to sit and chat with him. Sunday was different. Sunday he was grateful for every person who came to see him. He was teary but functioning. He appreciated the support of his friends and relatives. [/QUOTE]
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