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Uhg...Oldest difficult child thinks he is Sooooo much better than his brother!
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 504840" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hi Deb, </p><p></p><p>I don't know how I survived the two of them either. </p><p>But there was a price...</p><p>My marriage suffered, my sobriety suffered, and my sanity suffered. </p><p>Found a solution in each case but I certainly was not "perfect" in dealing with the 2 difficult child's. </p><p></p><p>I have spoken of young difficult child's teen yrs but not so much about oldests. His expulsion from school at 15 for Terroristic Threat, His cocaine and meth use, his holding a knife to himself with police ready to shoot him if he didn't put knife down, his pulling a knife (butter knife) out on young difficult child and young difficult child calling 911 and police arresting oldest for Aggravated Assault, lol...that charge was dropped ttl. </p><p></p><p>Yep, these things and so much more, oldest has "forgotten" about. </p><p>husband was just telling me yesterday how hard oldest has been working lately. And all I could say is ..."Well, that must make him feel better about himself than everyone else." </p><p>I mean, what does he want now...A Gold Star! I didn't get "credit" when I got sober for the long haul...When I worked my butt off and did what a "good mother" does and kept up with everything and anything. It was expected! </p><p>Anyway, there is usually an alterior motive where oldest is concerned. I also think he is working so hard because he is becoming a "workaholic" (more addiction issues) and is chasing the almighty dollar. He and his wife like to live a very upper middle class lifestyle. In fact, they bought their soon to be 2 yr old daughter a 400 dollar "kitchen" for Christmas! LOL, I bought my other granddaughter a 35 dollar "kitchen" from a consignment store for Christmas. Well, that would NEVER be good enough for oldests family trust me. So we only gave oldest gift card's for christmas as nothing we would buy would likely do. </p><p></p><p>Janet and Sus, </p><p>I hear you...And ya there is something about religion and addiction that goes hand in hand in my opinion. Now, what I do like about AA is that they say, "Live and Let Live" and to find the G-d (or Higher Power) of your OWN understanding. It's not about a Superior G-d or shoving your beliefs onto someone else or even the G-d that you "grew up with" etc. It is a very renewed and personal thing...I love that.</p><p></p><p>Thanks you guys for letting me vent, for the understanding, suggestions and hugs,</p><p>Yall are the best...and I don't know what I would do without the comfort and support of my CD friends. </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 504840, member: 3305"] Hi Deb, I don't know how I survived the two of them either. But there was a price... My marriage suffered, my sobriety suffered, and my sanity suffered. Found a solution in each case but I certainly was not "perfect" in dealing with the 2 difficult child's. I have spoken of young difficult child's teen yrs but not so much about oldests. His expulsion from school at 15 for Terroristic Threat, His cocaine and meth use, his holding a knife to himself with police ready to shoot him if he didn't put knife down, his pulling a knife (butter knife) out on young difficult child and young difficult child calling 911 and police arresting oldest for Aggravated Assault, lol...that charge was dropped ttl. Yep, these things and so much more, oldest has "forgotten" about. husband was just telling me yesterday how hard oldest has been working lately. And all I could say is ..."Well, that must make him feel better about himself than everyone else." I mean, what does he want now...A Gold Star! I didn't get "credit" when I got sober for the long haul...When I worked my butt off and did what a "good mother" does and kept up with everything and anything. It was expected! Anyway, there is usually an alterior motive where oldest is concerned. I also think he is working so hard because he is becoming a "workaholic" (more addiction issues) and is chasing the almighty dollar. He and his wife like to live a very upper middle class lifestyle. In fact, they bought their soon to be 2 yr old daughter a 400 dollar "kitchen" for Christmas! LOL, I bought my other granddaughter a 35 dollar "kitchen" from a consignment store for Christmas. Well, that would NEVER be good enough for oldests family trust me. So we only gave oldest gift card's for christmas as nothing we would buy would likely do. Janet and Sus, I hear you...And ya there is something about religion and addiction that goes hand in hand in my opinion. Now, what I do like about AA is that they say, "Live and Let Live" and to find the G-d (or Higher Power) of your OWN understanding. It's not about a Superior G-d or shoving your beliefs onto someone else or even the G-d that you "grew up with" etc. It is a very renewed and personal thing...I love that. Thanks you guys for letting me vent, for the understanding, suggestions and hugs, Yall are the best...and I don't know what I would do without the comfort and support of my CD friends. LMS [/QUOTE]
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