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Ultimatum Given, now Trepidation....
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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 59108" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Mikey,</p><p></p><p>2 things worry me. </p><p></p><p>One is, you first gave him till Saturday, and then when he did not have an answer, you immediately gave him till Monday. Here is where I agree with RM that he does not believe you will do what you say. He will keep pushing you, daring you, and you keep giving him rope.</p><p></p><p>The second thing is one of the choices you gave him:</p><p></p><p>"Not cause any more problems for the family, then move out in two months and live in your stoner nirvana on your own money and time. You'll have to pay off your car to me, get your own cell phone (if you can), get your own auto insurance (if you can), and hope that the local free clinic can help you the next time you're nearly dead from an asthma attack (assuming your stoner buddies aren't so impaired that they realize you need help before you die)."</p><p></p><p>That is so vague. Not cause problems for the family? He does not think he is causing problems now. Remember, he thinks that you are the hysterical one, and that he is normal. You would need to break that down for him. tell him exactly what he can or cannot do. Oh, and as a sidenote, I would not allow my 17 year old son to bring his girlfriend into his room when there is a 14 year old sister in the house. Because when she is 17, she will want to know why she can't bring her boyfriend into HER room. Anywyas, be specific as to what he needs to do in order to be ALLOWED to reside in YOUR home until he is 18. </p><p></p><p>Then, he is to be out of the house (YOUR house) on his 18th birthday. By the way, why would you send him out with a car that he has not finished paying you for? Or a cell phone that is in your name? OR tell him that he has to get his own auto insurance...if he can? You want him to know you mean it, toss him out on his McCulo, no phone, no car (until and unless he has finished paying you for it, and if he is, he can get his OWN insurance). Tell him he can get his car back when it is paid in full. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Ah Mikey. This is so tough. And you are so strong. This is really sucky though. Good luck to ya, we are all here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 59108, member: 3647"] Mikey, 2 things worry me. One is, you first gave him till Saturday, and then when he did not have an answer, you immediately gave him till Monday. Here is where I agree with RM that he does not believe you will do what you say. He will keep pushing you, daring you, and you keep giving him rope. The second thing is one of the choices you gave him: "Not cause any more problems for the family, then move out in two months and live in your stoner nirvana on your own money and time. You'll have to pay off your car to me, get your own cell phone (if you can), get your own auto insurance (if you can), and hope that the local free clinic can help you the next time you're nearly dead from an asthma attack (assuming your stoner buddies aren't so impaired that they realize you need help before you die)." That is so vague. Not cause problems for the family? He does not think he is causing problems now. Remember, he thinks that you are the hysterical one, and that he is normal. You would need to break that down for him. tell him exactly what he can or cannot do. Oh, and as a sidenote, I would not allow my 17 year old son to bring his girlfriend into his room when there is a 14 year old sister in the house. Because when she is 17, she will want to know why she can't bring her boyfriend into HER room. Anywyas, be specific as to what he needs to do in order to be ALLOWED to reside in YOUR home until he is 18. Then, he is to be out of the house (YOUR house) on his 18th birthday. By the way, why would you send him out with a car that he has not finished paying you for? Or a cell phone that is in your name? OR tell him that he has to get his own auto insurance...if he can? You want him to know you mean it, toss him out on his McCulo, no phone, no car (until and unless he has finished paying you for it, and if he is, he can get his OWN insurance). Tell him he can get his car back when it is paid in full. Ah Mikey. This is so tough. And you are so strong. This is really sucky though. Good luck to ya, we are all here for you. [/QUOTE]
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