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Ultimatum Given, now Trepidation....
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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 59328" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Mikey, therapists, counsellors, psychologists, psychiatrists aren't gods. They don't know your son. You do. I would simply call the woman at RCT and say, "Sorry, but I don't have the time for your plan to work or not work. I need to do something now and I think I've come up with a course that may help my son."</p><p></p><p>You are good with words. Actually, you are excellent with words but, so far, that's all they are -- words. There is no follow through. Even if you agree to not tell him he is moving out when he turns 18 there is no reason to not take his "good life" away today.</p><p></p><p>The one thing people here have been telling for a long time is to take his phone and car. This is something you obviously have never bought into. Not sure why but that is your business, so I know I will quit giving you this advice.</p><p></p><p>As for trust, etc., it seems that all kids think they are entitled to those, especially older teens. They think they have the right to make decisions about how they live their life while the parents foot the bill. For the non-problem kids this isn't such a big deal. They'll falter but they won't fall. Our kids not only fall, they go swan dive over the cliff. Some of us are lucky enough to have a rope attached that stops the fall. Many of us aren't. However, few of our kids have made it without at least hitting their personal bottom.</p><p></p><p>My daughter seems to have hit her bottom when she joined the carny, left the carny, ended up homeless for a few days and finally journeyed into one of the most gang-ridden areas around here. It was her "scared straight" moment. She's not perfect now that she's back home but the idea of going on her own with no skills and no education has at least gotten her to try. McWeedy has no reason to try at all. </p><p></p><p>He hasn't experienced any hardship. He has parents who love him even if mad at him. He has a home and a room to go to at the end of his forays. He has food he can eat at time. Not only that, he has nice clothes, a car, a phone, probably an IPod or the like, a DVD player, etc. He's been given no reason to even try to change. He is a long, long way from falling.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 59328, member: 3626"] Mikey, therapists, counsellors, psychologists, psychiatrists aren't gods. They don't know your son. You do. I would simply call the woman at RCT and say, "Sorry, but I don't have the time for your plan to work or not work. I need to do something now and I think I've come up with a course that may help my son." You are good with words. Actually, you are excellent with words but, so far, that's all they are -- words. There is no follow through. Even if you agree to not tell him he is moving out when he turns 18 there is no reason to not take his "good life" away today. The one thing people here have been telling for a long time is to take his phone and car. This is something you obviously have never bought into. Not sure why but that is your business, so I know I will quit giving you this advice. As for trust, etc., it seems that all kids think they are entitled to those, especially older teens. They think they have the right to make decisions about how they live their life while the parents foot the bill. For the non-problem kids this isn't such a big deal. They'll falter but they won't fall. Our kids not only fall, they go swan dive over the cliff. Some of us are lucky enough to have a rope attached that stops the fall. Many of us aren't. However, few of our kids have made it without at least hitting their personal bottom. My daughter seems to have hit her bottom when she joined the carny, left the carny, ended up homeless for a few days and finally journeyed into one of the most gang-ridden areas around here. It was her "scared straight" moment. She's not perfect now that she's back home but the idea of going on her own with no skills and no education has at least gotten her to try. McWeedy has no reason to try at all. He hasn't experienced any hardship. He has parents who love him even if mad at him. He has a home and a room to go to at the end of his forays. He has food he can eat at time. Not only that, he has nice clothes, a car, a phone, probably an IPod or the like, a DVD player, etc. He's been given no reason to even try to change. He is a long, long way from falling. [/QUOTE]
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