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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 59332" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>I'd start with the car and the phone, just because he does not respect your house rules. Never mind his 3 choices or the program, the car & phone together are a separate issue. Dr. Doobie can't call to say he will be late? Fine, give him a REAL reason not to be able to call. TURN OFF THE PHONE. He can't get home on time? Fine, give him a real reason not to get home on time. TAKE AWAY THE CAR THAT HE HAS NOT PAID FOR YET.</p><p></p><p>Then, you give him his options. You might go with something like this: </p><p></p><p>A- get help (Residential Treatment Center (RTC) program is a start, and if he can't remember to take 3 pills a day, he SURELY is not responsible enough to drive a car). When he gets help, LIST what the rules are pertaining to being a productive, polite family member. Let him EARN his privileges back. He doesn't get to start with them; he blew it. If he can be a good little Mc-no-weedy, then he can have his fun back.</p><p></p><p>B- Don't want help? Fine. Here are THE RULES to stay in the house until school is over. They include blah blah blah, thus and such. No, you will not have a phone. No you will not have a car. You get 3 hots & a cot. Earn your own extras.</p><p></p><p>C- Don't like either of these choices? Too tough for you? Get out. Leave the car keys here on your way. You may use Dancer's old pedal bike with the banana seat and the flowers on the basket.</p><p></p><p>See, whether the program people yell at you or not, it is your home, and if your boy doesn't want to go anymore, nobody is going to make him. You need to make that option look stellar. It is the best of the 3, but still shows him that he can no longer take you or his family for granted. Remember, you have another child to consider, and she does not need this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 59332, member: 3647"] I'd start with the car and the phone, just because he does not respect your house rules. Never mind his 3 choices or the program, the car & phone together are a separate issue. Dr. Doobie can't call to say he will be late? Fine, give him a REAL reason not to be able to call. TURN OFF THE PHONE. He can't get home on time? Fine, give him a real reason not to get home on time. TAKE AWAY THE CAR THAT HE HAS NOT PAID FOR YET. Then, you give him his options. You might go with something like this: A- get help (Residential Treatment Center (RTC) program is a start, and if he can't remember to take 3 pills a day, he SURELY is not responsible enough to drive a car). When he gets help, LIST what the rules are pertaining to being a productive, polite family member. Let him EARN his privileges back. He doesn't get to start with them; he blew it. If he can be a good little Mc-no-weedy, then he can have his fun back. B- Don't want help? Fine. Here are THE RULES to stay in the house until school is over. They include blah blah blah, thus and such. No, you will not have a phone. No you will not have a car. You get 3 hots & a cot. Earn your own extras. C- Don't like either of these choices? Too tough for you? Get out. Leave the car keys here on your way. You may use Dancer's old pedal bike with the banana seat and the flowers on the basket. See, whether the program people yell at you or not, it is your home, and if your boy doesn't want to go anymore, nobody is going to make him. You need to make that option look stellar. It is the best of the 3, but still shows him that he can no longer take you or his family for granted. Remember, you have another child to consider, and she does not need this. [/QUOTE]
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