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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 59358" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>BBK, gotta hand it to you. You know how to say what I need to hear. I like that approach.</p><p></p><p>Funny thing, too. Just got called back by the folks at the medical study, who said pretty much the same thing. If his behavior is poor (whatever the reasons - drugs, ODD, cosmic rays, etc..), then don't make his life any easier than it has to be. Starting with the car and the phone. Can't really take away his iPod or his 'puter since he paid for those. But I <strong>did</strong> take away his internet connection because he was surfing for porn and drug websites.</p><p></p><p>I told this lady that while the drugs were a major problem, and probably either cause or enhance the other problems, I have to address the current crisis: I've lost control of my home to this neanderthal. And I have to get it back - NOW! I had a plan, and they asked me to ease up and give them a chance. Okay, so I pop the question today: what is your plan? Do you think you can help with the immediate issues? Will your "medical study" suffice for what McWeedy really needs? If not, tell me now so I can move on.</p><p></p><p>The program coordinator politely replied that she thought they <em>could</em> deal with it, albeit with some customization of the normal treatment plan in the study. And they want to try. So she's going to discuss this with the staff today, and get back to me within the next day or two (they want to get past today's meeting with McWeedy as well, now that they have a better picture of his homelife). </p><p></p><p>In the mean time, she recommended the same things you guys are suggesting. Use what I have to deal with the behavior problems that are right in front of my face. Get some control back over my house, and give them a day or two to see if they can truly help with the drugging within the context of the study, or decide if he needs more.</p><p></p><p>So now I have to go home, speak with wife to make sure we're on the same page, and start acting. Let's see how that goes.</p><p></p><p><strong>ant's mom</strong>: the medical study is outpatient, but is held at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) with outpatient facilities. The center itself specializes in treating children and adolescents, and I just found out it has one of the "true" lockdown facilities for adolescent substance abuse treatment. Is that what you were looking for?</p><p></p><p>Also, I don't know if he's complying with the requirements of the study because of the privacy rules. However, I can assume that he is (or they think he is) complying because they said they'd drop him from the program and notify us immediately if they found anything that was beyond their ability to deal with. I made a somewhat snide comment that went something like "you don't <strong>know</strong> what you're dealing with when it comes to my manipulative little pothead". Somewhat indignantly, the lady replied "I think you'd be surprised at what we know and understand". Not sure what that meant, if it was arrogance, hubris, or confidence. </p><p></p><p>And I guess I won't know because of the privacy rules. But so far, after nearly a month into the program, I've noticed only a decline, not even staying afloat. Maybe in a weird way, that <em>is</em> progress, in that he's either unwilling or unable to perpetuate the illusion any more? Maybe he's not getting worse, maybe he's just not covering it up as well as he used to.</p><p></p><p>I don't know. Still wish I had become a monk... :crazy: </p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 59358, member: 3579"] BBK, gotta hand it to you. You know how to say what I need to hear. I like that approach. Funny thing, too. Just got called back by the folks at the medical study, who said pretty much the same thing. If his behavior is poor (whatever the reasons - drugs, ODD, cosmic rays, etc..), then don't make his life any easier than it has to be. Starting with the car and the phone. Can't really take away his iPod or his 'puter since he paid for those. But I [b]did[/b] take away his internet connection because he was surfing for porn and drug websites. I told this lady that while the drugs were a major problem, and probably either cause or enhance the other problems, I have to address the current crisis: I've lost control of my home to this neanderthal. And I have to get it back - NOW! I had a plan, and they asked me to ease up and give them a chance. Okay, so I pop the question today: what is your plan? Do you think you can help with the immediate issues? Will your "medical study" suffice for what McWeedy really needs? If not, tell me now so I can move on. The program coordinator politely replied that she thought they [i]could[/i] deal with it, albeit with some customization of the normal treatment plan in the study. And they want to try. So she's going to discuss this with the staff today, and get back to me within the next day or two (they want to get past today's meeting with McWeedy as well, now that they have a better picture of his homelife). In the mean time, she recommended the same things you guys are suggesting. Use what I have to deal with the behavior problems that are right in front of my face. Get some control back over my house, and give them a day or two to see if they can truly help with the drugging within the context of the study, or decide if he needs more. So now I have to go home, speak with wife to make sure we're on the same page, and start acting. Let's see how that goes. [b]ant's mom[/b]: the medical study is outpatient, but is held at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) with outpatient facilities. The center itself specializes in treating children and adolescents, and I just found out it has one of the "true" lockdown facilities for adolescent substance abuse treatment. Is that what you were looking for? Also, I don't know if he's complying with the requirements of the study because of the privacy rules. However, I can assume that he is (or they think he is) complying because they said they'd drop him from the program and notify us immediately if they found anything that was beyond their ability to deal with. I made a somewhat snide comment that went something like "you don't [b]know[/b] what you're dealing with when it comes to my manipulative little pothead". Somewhat indignantly, the lady replied "I think you'd be surprised at what we know and understand". Not sure what that meant, if it was arrogance, hubris, or confidence. And I guess I won't know because of the privacy rules. But so far, after nearly a month into the program, I've noticed only a decline, not even staying afloat. Maybe in a weird way, that [i]is[/i] progress, in that he's either unwilling or unable to perpetuate the illusion any more? Maybe he's not getting worse, maybe he's just not covering it up as well as he used to. I don't know. Still wish I had become a monk... [img]:crazy:[/img] Mikey [/QUOTE]
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